As a masculine male you are a rare creature (at least in the United States). Your demeanor leads to people either flocking towards you, attracted to your aura of power and confidence or it repels them as you are a mirror that forces them to look at their own mediocre existence. This life is incredibly easy, yet filled with more challenges than women or weaksauce men will ever be able to comprehend.
How can life be easy yet filled with challenges?
This is possible because masculine men desire challenges; they thrive on the test to their resolve and find comfort in the discomfort of being pushed outside the ‘comfort zone’. It is through adversity and finding that inner resolve that men are forged in our society. It is due to this sense of ‘self’ that leads to there being no other option than the Masculine man walking his path alone. Nobody else can do it for you, find peace in that.
As a married man and father, how can I say such a thing?! That’s the main question I’ve been asked in the past; as if saying that I pursue my mission alone is somehow blasphemous. Then again, these are the same people who, after each award I’ve ever received in the military and civilian sector, chime in with the ‘Every strong man is only able to accomplish great things because of the strong woman supporting him’. Needless to say, their verbiage doesn’t carry much weight on any subject in my eyes.
To paint the picture of what it is I mean by ‘walking alone’, something most men understand, but for those who haven’t embraced heir masculinity, or for the women reading this blog (do any women read this?) I will break it down further. My wife walks parallel to me (more accurately a step behind), my kids behind me, and the cat – who really gives a shit?! I would say the only person whom I fully trust and would say could be walking my path with me, isn’t a person at all, it’s my dog. He is the only thing on this planet that loves me more than himself and I truly appreciate that. I’ve have learned a lot from him as I’ve walked this path. The biggest lesson being, enjoy the now. My dog doesn’t hold grudges, he is genuinely happy in each moment.
Life is rough? Fuck it, smile.
As men we need to be comfortable and find enjoyment in being outnumbered, outgunned, and not really fitting in with everyone else. You see, it isn’t meeting others expectations or fitting the mold of another person that makes you a Man. Being a Man means you are walking your own path – alone. You need to be comfortable with this fact; it’s a part of dissolving the Red Pill.
My ‘Rite of Passage‘ to living a masculine life was through my military service. I was fortunate in the sense that I took ‘The Red Pill‘ at 19 and before marriage. I wasn’t aware of marriage 2.0 so I followed what I thought was the natural progression of a man’s life, I made my wife go through a deployment before tying the knot, then we had kids, got the house, etc. Through all of this I did what I thought was right. I worked out hard, focused on doing what was ‘right’ over what was easy, and against the wishes of my wife, I reenlisted. I don’t add this as a pat on the back for me, as I don’t need internet hugs. I include this information to point out that I did what I felt I had to in order to follow my mission in life. Through the military and discovering The Red Pill I’ve been able to keep from falling victim to becoming what I was expected to become by our weaksauce society. I am what I have come to call the Family Alpha.
I’ve got different priorities than the single masculine guy, but our mission is the same. Do the best, be the best, and achieve the most. Even when working with a team, you alone are responsible for your actions. The success or failures you experience are entirely up to you. You must accept this fact as it is not a discussion piece nor is it debatable. What you do, what you achieve, and the perspective you take on issues is solely on you.
Reaching the point where you aren’t following another person’s code or expectation is the level every man single or married needs to reach. You need to become Masculine and not act like a masculine dude. The change must be internal; you must make the changes for your ‘self’ and no other. If you want the world, then get it. By doing this, you’ll fill the masculine role which you were born to fill. You will allow others to be who they were meant to be as they will feed off the way you embrace your individual identity and no bullshit attitude. You do this by instilling discipline through lifting, reading, having sex, saying fuck the TV and going outside (with your kids if you have them), setting the bar from which excellence is measured in every facet of your life. You do all of this without a safety net. TRP, MRP, & the rest of the Manosphere is not there to catch you if you fall. If you nuke your marriage or make a woman your mission and she bails, that’s on you and for you to process. Again, the victim puke, anger phase, and period of ‘digestion’ for the Pill varies but the universal truth is that nobody is going to live your life but you.
You make the choice, Red or blue?
For the guys on here who are married and are thinking, “I hate my marriage because The Red Pill says that’s what I should do.” Or single dudes thinking, “I have to spin plates, because that’s ‘Alpha’” …gentlemen you’re missing the point.
The Red Pill applies to both single and married men because it promotes a community that discusses sexual strategy for the masculine male and part of the process is to improve who you are as a man. The Manosphere is the only community that is promoting the expression instead of the repression of masculinity.
Unfortunately, the majority of users are simply repeating the same things over and over again, discussing Red Pill concepts without ever applying them. For the newly unplugged guy, I understand. But, for the dudes who are coming out of the anger phase, you need to begin accepting that women are women and that we should love them even with their solipsistic & hypergamous nature. Take what you’re learning from the RedPill sub and apply it to your life. Apply it to your situation and instead of always being the observer, caught in the analysis paralysis of implementation – become the guy who lives the Masculine life. Don’t act Red Pill, be Red Pill.
We, as men, do not need the approval of our peers, nor do we need the internet men to live our lives. We need to do what comes natural, we need to lift heavy things, lead, live, confront, love, have passion, always improve, and do what makes us happy & not what is expected of us. It’s our path and we walk it alone.
If you’re 30 and people are pushing the ‘Get Married, settle down’ message’ Tell them to fuck off, this is your path not theirs. The Masculine, Alpha dude walks to the beat of his own drum and when something doesn’t serve a purpose, he discards it. This is true of individuals as well as their opinions, discard them.
There are too many stereotypes and ‘expected pathways’ for men to take and it’s past time we completely destroyed the idea that men must follow a certain order of operations in life. I’d much rather see guys doing whatever the fuck they want, owning their shit, and choosing their paths for themselves than simply falling in line and supporting the female imperative.
The road is long and cold, hours spent alone reading and lifting. It is through these trials and tribulations that you discover who you are as a man. I don’t expect my women to ‘get’ me and neither should you. They want the muscles, not to hear of the hours it took to get them. They want the charm, not the hours spent reading up on game & kino. They are women, let them enjoy the ride while you steer the ship.