This is going to be a less theoretical and more – blunt post. My post on 10 Ways to keep your wife on her toes helped a lot of guys out so I figured this list would be beneficial as well. I was asked a while back what I did to show my lady that I was ‘the man’. I responded with a quick list of things I normally do without really thinking of it, but, when asked to analyze how my wife knows she has a masculine dude, these are the things that popped into my mind. This is by no means all inclusive, as I don’t write things down when I do them, but it’s a start.
Before getting to the list, you need to keep a few things in mind.
First, this is my list. Some of these things may sound retarded and counterproductive, I ensure you I only employ the tactics I know will work or if I am teasing my wife I don’t care if they work or not, I will use them just to let her know, I’m going to do me, I’m not a guy she can mold and contain, I’m free and fucking awesome.
Second, these things are aimed towards my wife. I highly recommend you take a few things from this list that you haven’t done and see what kind of response you get. Your wife may hate when you grab her neck, mine loves it. You won’t know until you try it.
Third, try more than once. Maybe slapping your girl’s ass hard doesn’t work the first time. So, the second time, try tapping it, or lifting it from the bottom of her butt cheek. Basically, try the same thing, differently.
Fourth, add to the list. Once you take a few of my suggestions and moves, leave me a comment to grow my list, and start thinking of your own list of Masculine Moves. Start thinking of things you do, or should do more often to let your woman know, you are fucking awesome.
Fifth, fucking enjoy it. I grab my woman and spin her around in public places, at home, family functions, wherever. Do You. Fuck who sees it and fuck if it is totally appropriate, have fun – life sucks if you follow the beta path that has been laid before you, forge your own.
My List of Masculine Moves
- I will put my arm around her shoulders.
- In front of a party I will yell out to my wife for whatever,Be on my beer pong team, grab me a beer you sexy fucking woman, HEY! Your butt looks good in those pants I get loud, everyone shuts the fuck up, and in front of the silent crowd, I embarrass my lady with love. This isn’t drunk obnoxious screaming, it’s breaking the set volume people have. If people are all keeping it at a 4, I will raise it to a 6 and do my thing. I keep my request/statement appropriate to the environment as the goal is to let her know you aren’t afraid of the world knowing you are with her as well as her knowing you are doing you and not keeping yourself conformed to the people around you.
- I tell her No when that is how I feel and Yes when that is how I feel. I don’t placate my response to her emotion.
- I never change who I am or what I feel to avoid confrontation.
- I will order for her if I know what she wants, or if I know there is something I want her to try.
- I will order her drinks whether she is at the table or in the bathroom, mixing it up – martini, cocktail, whatever – I try to keep it stylish and cater it to what she likes.
- I fix shit that is broken
- I train her during PT
- I will hold her hand anytime anywhere. Other couples are separating, I try to keep it fresh and romantic like when we were teenagers. I see couples sit across the table from us, feet apart while when we sit together in a booth or table, we are right near one another, holding inner thighs, hands, and just fucking around with each other.
- I break out into ballroom dance in the middle of anywhere, spinning her around. Whether it is the mall, the park, a party, middle of the street, where the fuck ever.
- I keep eye contact with her and those around me
- I refuse to cater my voice or actions to those around me
- I make my reality everyone’s In my world it’s ok for boys to wrestle, girls to do girl shit, men to fight then make up, and since I believe I can do anything, others believe I can do anything. I’ve had others wives tell their husbands (actual quote), you can’t flip off the roof, do you think you’re Hunter?
- I openly game her friends, waitresses, chicks in general. This isn’t so I can live a polygamous life, I don’t take these girls home, but I do make them want me and I do keep my abundance mentality displayed. My wife is awesome, I’m not cheating – but I could and in a way I know she could too, it makes us want each other more.
- I drive when I know the weather sucks or there will be traffic
- I plan out vacationswith her as well as surprising her from time to time
- I try to do something out of the blue once a week, something as small as planning a hike for us, to something as large as surprising her with a vacation.
- I keep her on her toes by remaining unpredictable and always improving
- I don’t playyes man to anyone. (If you have seen the movie Daddy’s Home with Ferrell and Wahlburg – Ferrell cannot say no to anyone, even his wife’s ex. Everything is yes and I don’t do that – I don’t break my back for everyone, only those truly in need and even then – only if I view them to be worthy.)
- I listen to her and change my decision if she brings solid points to the table
- I treat her like a woman, I don’t expect her to think or act like a man.
- I ensure she knows I recognize the little shit she does. Not by buying flowers, but by taking the kids to the playground and telling her to go get her nails done or by setting up a wine/paint night with her mom then telling her I’ve got the kids for the night.
- I don’t hold the resentment that so many men let fester (that is weak – Get over your relationship PTSD)
- I educate her – I’ve gotten her into stoicism as well as getting her to create checklists that show the goals she has and the steps she is taking to achieve the rest of them.
- I can cook and will cook maybe 1-2 times a week (made a wicked good grilled chicken salad last night)
- I set goals and complete them
- I keep my word and promises
- I ensure I am setting the bar from which she will measure other men and that I am continually raising that bar
- I tease her, I once swapped one of her incense sticks with a 4th of July sparkler, the fucking house looked like a bomb went off.
- I improve myself, I’m currently in Grad school and am writing two books.
- I dress well and give a shit about my appearance
- I look good naked
- I let her remain feminine, not expecting her to change the oil or mow the lawn, she decorates and cleans the house and that is cool with me (I also created my Slut)
- I teach my son how to be a man and treat my daughter like a little lady
- I protect the weak and stand up for what is right and not what is popular
- I build my reputation and refuse to reward failure
- When I hold her hand or arm, I am always on the side of the road or other people
- I’m not a weaksauce fuck viewing her as an anchor – she is fuel for my improvement and she feels that.
- I am dominant and not domineering, which means I am loved, feared, and respected all at once. It means owning every action, even if that action is picking flowers for your daughter. Domineering is getting others to listen out of fear vice respect, weaksauce as fuck.Some husbands deserve sex more than others
- I hold the world in my frame – your personal frame is not the same as building the frame of a house. You are reconstructing your entire reality, you are setting your own standard.For Example: In my frame weakness is not expected nor is it accepted from those around me. Wild & romantic sex daily is normal & Dads are NOT expected to be weak/fat- they are fit leaders. When you are around me, you are in my frame and I hold you to my standard and treat you accordingly.
Now go forth and create your own list. This is mine, you may think every point is ridiculous, if you take nothing from this, you’re probably just being a fuck. Take some examples, try them out, and let me know. I want some fresh ideas as much as you.
Acta Non Verba,