This past weekend I hiked a portion of the Appalachian Trail with a few buddies from my first deployment. As anyone who has gone camping with friends can tell you, eventually the subjects of conversation reach that ‘next level’ where things get deep.
I had been touching on the surface of The Family Alpha with them, just dropping a few bread crumbs about how I felt in regards to masculinity and the role manly men play in our society when one of the guys said, “You have an interesting view on life, I’d like to hear what you think the point of it all is…”
The following is an attempt at revisiting that answer and letting you get a different view on this life. Ultimately my goal is to give you a new perspective and mental tool to use in your decision making process in this life, a tool that can help you live a life of no regrets.
The Point Of It All According to Hunter Drew
The way I look at it is like this – When you are born your life (string) is wrapped around a nail that is sticking out of the wall and with each passing minute, like the time that ticks away while you read this post –that string grows. It is unwound from a spool that has a predetermined length of string.
As you age, you have Polaroids clipped onto that string. In the beginning there are so many that they often overlap – your first words, learning your colors, these first memories of your life are your first Polaroids. As we age – a gap begins to grow between those photos. The ‘moments’ of your life begin to space out as each experience is no longer as new or profound.
This is where the divide between those who live a full life and those don’t can be found. It is also at this point where the masculine man separates himself from his white knight, plugged in, beta, blue pill counterparts.
You see, the masculine man is always hanging Polaroids. He views each day to be an opportunity to achieve something. Each day is like a new life, where his awakening is his birth and he knows that sleeping that night will be his death – so he does all he can to set his next life up for success and to own the opportunity he has been given in this day.
When people have ‘near death’ experiences, they always say their life flashed before their eyes. You know what’s happening? Their mind is flying along that string and the Polaroids are zipping by as it does so. You want to be the guy whose mind has to fly past a lot of photos.
The masculine man finds purpose and exercises discipline the moment he opens his eyes. He wakes up early and instead of listening to the voice that tells him to remain under the warm blanket, he gets up. Walking from his bed, shaking the sleep from his mind he sees whatever his goal is. Maybe he rises early to lift weights, when he grabs that bar – a Polaroid is hung, he’ll remember the time he exercised his discipline and once again went to service at the Iron Temple.
Maybe he rises early to write more for his book, do some schoolwork, or hit the pavement and log some miles – each of those actions is a Polaroid being hung, those moments come from existing in the moment.
These decisions to take action and be in the moment are not as common as they should be. This goes way beyond waking up early.
I’ll use a real life example that was shared by a friend of mine around the campfire.
He was driving cross country a few years ago and during his road trip he knew he would be driving past the Grand Canyon. The detour to see the Canyon would add 3 hours to his voyage, but there was no deadline to reaching his destination. He decided to pass on the opportunity and figured he would see it some other time, possibly on his drive back…It has been 5 years, he has yet to see the Grand Canyon and he regrets the decision to not do so when he had the opportunity – he missed the chance to hang a Polaroid on his lifeline.
Gentlemen, that’s what the point of this life is, choosing to see the Grand Fucking Canyon, choosing to take that action, wake up earlier, go on those trips, practice forced discomfort, and live in each and every moment.
Tomorrow is not guaranteed and the privilege you have to grow older is one that has been denied to many. Instead of making my friend feel bad for choosing not to see the Grand Canyon I told him to view it as his Tipping Point. I want him to look back to that gap on his lifeline, that missing Polaroid and use that void as a reference point when making other decisions.
When you choose to lay in bed, you miss a chance to live.
When you choose to watch porn, you miss a chance to live
You find excuse after excuse to not eat right, to not lift weights, to not write that book, to not go back to school, to not put the phone down and play with your kids, to not read the books, to not visit the places around you, to not live….Your string will reach it’s end and when it does, you’ll look back at the gas and regret the time you wasted while others lived.
Acta, Non Verba – Take Action Brothers, don’t just talk about it or type about it online – take real, physical actions…the window of opportunity is closing with each breath you take.
This post isn’t about sexual strategy, nor is it really about improving your ‘self’ – it’s about truly living. Too few people are actually living their life. Consuming products that you’ve been told you should like does not provide you with a Polaroid. Getting 30 likes on Facebook does not provide you with any Polaroids. Being overweight, being bogged down by ego, and being an individual who refuses to leave their comfort zone prevents you from getting any Polaroids.
You have to live this life as a genuine person and fucking seize each and every day. I want you to get everything you can from this life, I truly do. So please, after reading this, go do some ‘thing’ that you’ve been putting off and feel how fucking good it is to take an action and live in the moment. Then, do it again – actually do something that you’ve said you were going to do for the past week, month, or year.
I wish you the best,