Meditation in Motion

You've got to get your mind under control or it will wreak havoc.

You’ve got to get your mind under control or it will wreak havoc.

Many readers on the Manosphere keep asking the same questions and a lot of writers keep providing the same answers with their unique take here and there.

Guys unplug and then they’ll say, “I don’t know what to do”.

They are angry yet they aren’t quite sure at whom or what specifically it is that angers them.

These guys say they don’t know where to direct their anger or how to just not be angry.

They also want to know what specifically they are supposed to be doing now that they’ve gotten a taste of reality and are beginning to see the strings controlling the system.

To the gentlemen who find themselves in this group, this one is for you.

Meditation in Motion is something I came up with before I started The Family Alpha blog. It was the discovery that when I wasn’t writing, lifting, and doing I felt like shit. I started to pay attention to this and I came to the realization that it was in the movement that I found myself most ‘at peace’ with who I was as a man and where I was in my life.

I’ve tried the whole sitting, breathing into my stomach, and counting breaths to help clear the mind. It just wasn’t my thing, I kept thinking of the other things I wanted to do.

Notice I said things I wanted to do; I’m not a victim of the ‘go-go-go’ mindset which plagues many men in our modern society. I don’t always think of stuff I have to do, which would be the result of a stressful mind. Instead, I take time to fully immerse in each moment; I now notice shit as simple as a breeze, the color of trees, etc.

I would sit, do nothing but try to ‘meditate’ and I just couldn’t stop thinking about the post I wanted to write, the book I’d like to read, whatever; there was something productive I wanted to do besides find ‘Zen’.

I’ve since come to the conclusion that not as many people give a shit about reaching enlightenment as people think. It’s the same as the cold showers, stoicism, etc. People hold these as doctrine. Fuck it, periodically throw a cold shower in the mix, and once in a while let your emotions flare to the surface. Some people find peace sitting and listening to bells, most don’t and to that crowd I’ve got a solution.

Fuck the enlightenment, we need to recognize that men want to find peace within their mind & body.

There is a connection between the mind and body; if both aren’t in sync and properly trained you’re going to have an imbalance. Lifting trains both, implementing intentional discomforts occasionally will train both, and reading keeps the mind sharp. All of these must occur for the strongest foundation of ‘self’ to be developed.

So what are you supposed to do to achieve greater insight and control over ‘self’ without sitting and breathing in a silent room?


Just get yourself in motion; whatever that means to you is what you’re supposed to do.

For some men that means signing up to a gym or purchasing home gym equipment and getting at it in their home. Others may start taking care of projects around their house which has been neglected. Some may find that it just means getting out without their wife as they don’t have any friends or hobbies. You can also:

  • Go for a Walk
  • Go for a run
  • Drive to an empty parking lot and read
  • Start writing
  • Start taking photos
  • Start attending a class on anything at your local library or community college

Just start doing something which puts your body & mind into motion. It is in the action that you will begin to release the anger, release the tension, release the stress, release the fear, release the regret, release the pain, and replace it with your masculine powerful self.

Notice, none of the recommended actions include your wife. This post is for fixing the minds of the newly unplugged as well as the guys who are stuck in the anger stage. You need to take the actions, free from your wife as they have nothing to do with her.

I’m not telling you to lead her, not telling you to game her, I’m not telling you to do a fucking thing with her as that requires control, a clear mind, and Machiavellian perception which you are unable to master while your mind is a mess.

Skip all of that bullshit and just simply focus on you doing something.

You will find that during your runs you are talking to yourself in your head. While you’re taking photos you’re also thinking about that thing you said or did.

While in motion you are meditating and de-fragmenting your mind and you don’t even know it. Taking these actions and putting yourself into motion will lead to you becoming more effective and efficient at uncovering who you are as a man. Once you know who your ‘self’ is, you can then release the anger as well as knowing exactly what it is you want to do in this life and how you’re going to do it.

I follow this same advice when writing. When I write I light a candle near me (I’ve got one lit next to me right now), when I get stuck on a point, description, or phrasing I’ll look into the flame. My eyes are looking at the fire, but the distraction from the screen allows my mind to free itself and look at the problem from every perspective; it frees the mind to break the constraints it is under when I am focusing its energy.

Get your 'self' in motion, the time is going to pass either way; you might as well do something.

Get your ‘self’ in motion, the time is going to pass either way; you might as well do something.

That dancing fire frees my mind; this is a micro version of what I’m recommending as I’m focusing on writing. What I recommend to you is a much larger action than looking at a flame. This is your life and a much bigger aspect of your ‘self’, movement is the macro version of this.

Another personal example is that during my hour commute to and from work, I keep the radio off. I use that time to just think and let my mind wander as far as it can while still being able to drive. Stop wasting time listening to the same 10 songs on the radio, it’s time that could be used to dial yourself in, preventing any mental health complications or feelings of being ‘overloaded’ from developing.

You may get wicked pissed that your wife won’t submit & follow your lead or fuck you like you want her to. Don’t get mad or angry and don’t storm out of the house, simply recognize the situation for what it is and when it’s time for you to get into motion you’ll see that you’re better able to elevate yourself over the situation and seeing the entire ‘field of battle’. You’ll see where you fucked up, where you said too much or too little, and you’ll come up for a game plan to implement the next time this scenario arises.

If you were to just sit and stew over it, not moving but just sitting and reading TRP/MRP/the ‘sphere you’ll twist yourself up and achieve nothing but increased agitation. Kill the redundancy without progress.

When you return home from being in motion, your mind is clear and you no longer give a fuck about whatever the hell had transpired. Your lady may try to bait you back in but at this point, you’ve ‘meditated while in motion’ and no longer give a fuck. Not in the childish manner of playing silent, no – you truly don’t give a shit about it anymore. So, just maintain frame and move forward.

Now, apply this to all of your activities. Whatever it is that you are doing, immerse yourself in it and make every action a moment to ‘meditate’. Your body & mind will always be on point as you are intentionally keeping them both moving forward. Similar to the way you don’t drink stagnate water, you don’t thrive with a stagnant body & mind.

The answer to all of the questions concerning what you’re ‘supposed’ to do when you discover the Manosphere and unplug, is move.

Get up and start doing shit and don’t stop doing shit until you die.

You don’t deserve a break, you haven’t done enough, it is your job to lead, the burden of performance will always be on you whether you’re married, single, MGTOW, whatever.

Embrace that and move, the anger should dissipate and a genuine don’t give a fuck mindset should take its place.

Get moving brothers,


I write for free, but if you feel the need to compensate for the benefit this article may have provided to you in your life – I’d be most humbled and appreciative.


6 thoughts on “Meditation in Motion

  1. Sounds like we’re on the same page with eliminating the needless chatter out of our lives. I have recently been going through an experiment where I’m eliminating all forms of passive entertainment, one of which is the radio.

    Totally agree with you on men finding meditation in movement. It seems the activity of the body allows the mind to relax.

  2. I have tried the whole meditation thing and I cannot get into it either. I just cannot shut my mind off when I’m trying to shut off. I do my best thinking, and find clearing my mind the easiest when doing things. Walking, working manual labor in the yard, driving with no radio, etc… I’m glad you posted this, with all the talk of the importance of meditation I thought it was just me that couldn’t get into it.

    I tried the cold showers thing everyone is so high on for awhile too. Couldn’t see the point in that either and saw no real benefit. I’m sure it works for some due to the popularity, but I was just miserable. Now swimming in a cold creek or the ocean I do enjoy, just not the cold showers… Maybe being outside gives that whole union with nature and our primal instincts.

    Keep up the good work. I always look forward to your posts.

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  4. “I would sit, do nothing but try to ‘meditate’ and I just couldn’t stop thinking about the post I wanted to write, the book I’d like to read, whatever; there was something productive I wanted to do besides find ‘Zen’.”

    But… this is exactly the point of meditation, stopping these thoughts when you want to. It doesn’t matter if you think about something productive you want to do or the next series you’re gonna binge-watch on Netflix, they are thoughts that pop into your mind. It’s normal to find it hard to focus at first, this is the whole point.

    What you are doing already (being mindful in your actions) is really good, but I think it could be better if you gave a second chance to ‘normal’ meditation and push through it, I encourage you to try for example the Headspace application (not working for them, there is a free trial), where you are guided through several sessions.

    Thanks a lot for all of your posts, I truly enjoy reading them.

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