Excuses

Stop making excuses as to why you're wasting your time before it runs out.

Stop making excuses to why you’re wasting your time, do so before it runs out.

Excuses are like assholes, everyone has one and they all stink.

This is something I’d like you to recognize and really wrap your mind around. Everyone makes an excuse as to why they can’t do the things they need to do. Only a very select few out there are making excuses to do the things they need to do.

Ask yourself these questions and see if you can come up with an answer which you know to be a lie you tell yourself to justify mediocre performance.

  1. What excuse do you have for not gaming your wife these past few years? You don’t treat her like a lover anymore, yet expect her to act like one?
  2. What excuse do you have for plugging your kids in front of a screen day after day; refusing to put your phone away and educate, play with, or lead them?
  3. What excuse do you have for the weight you’ve put on?
  4. What’s your excuse for giving your time and attention to those who are not worthy; hanging with deadbeat friends who do nothing but complain and waste your time with booze or pot?
  5. What excuse do you have for how weak you have become physically, spiritually, & mentally?
  6. What is your excuse for all of the times you didn’t speak up and tell the world how you truly felt because you’d rather play it safe and not make waves; making yourself like everyone else in an attempt to be accepted by them?
  7. What’s your excuse for putting everyone ahead of yourself?
  8. What’s your excuse for letting society tell you what you should like, how you should act, and what you should accept?
  9. What’s your excuse for rewarding failure time and again?
  10. What excuse do you have for repressing your masculine nature?

People will make an excuse as to why they didn’t go to the gym, yet the winners out there are making excuses to go to the gym.

When is the last time you said, “Hey man I’m going to be late to your (insert event) because I need to hit the gym.”? When is the last time you made the decision to not go to bed but rather stay up late because you had to knock some project out?

The issue we have is that of too much comfort and too little appreciation of time.

Comfort

People have become so comfortable that they’d rather suffer a mediocre existence than put in the slightest effort required for improvement. People choose to complain and seek validation through those complaints instead of just shutting the hell up and putting in the work.

I had a husband email me talking about how his wife refuses to follow his lead and that they have a deadbedroom; I then found out he was fat.

I asked him why he thought his wife would want to have sex with a fat dude. He went on to explain through 6 paragraphs how a knee injury from high school football (when he was really cut and strong of course) prevented him from lifting weights, running, etc.

I have a Master’s in Exercise Science, I was able to call BS on this one fairly quickly. He was upset about that and hasn’t responded since.

Instead of complaining about the problems you have in your life, start working to solve them and don’t hold others to a higher standard than you hold yourself. Your wife and friends don’t have the online resources you’ve discovered, be that voice for them.

Stop being so comfortable sitting on your couch talking about how the world is holding you down, you are holding you down, so get up!

Stand up and start doing.

I know it’s cold, I know you’re tired, I know life isn’t easy as I’m living it too. I have a full time job, am a father of two, a husband, a blogger, and I workout.

I fucking get it.

But here’s the secret, I don’t talk about my problems. I solve them and that’s why I’m able to do 4x as much as you with my 24 hours vs your 24 hours.

  1. Stop going to bed early after watching TV shows for hours on Netflix. No, you don’t deserve that break and if you did, you wouldn’t be asking or convincing yourself.
  2. Stop being fat
  3. Stop being lazy
  4. Stop being weak
  5. Stop being so god damned comfortable all the time, implement some Intentional Discomfort into your life.

You need to feel the pain of work and effort, you need to find comfort in the discomfort of living life as a masculine man

Time

Guys think they have all the time in the world to unfuck themselves and their situation.

The fat say they’ll workout tomorrow, the poor say they’ll grind tomorrow, the weak say they’ll improve tomorrow.

What if tomorrow never comes?

Social media & technology have made people lose their appreciation of time. Time should be the single most cherished commodity we have in life as it is the most limited aspect of our lives.

You can’t borrow, buy, or build more time.

You never know when your string of life is going to finally unravel from the spool, yet people are living as though there’s no end in sight.

Time is like an angel, beautiful beyond measure & flying high. When people try to capture time, what they are doing is grabbing the angel and cutting off its wings.

When you’re “capturing” the moment for Facebook, not enjoying yourself but rather trying to promote yourself and show the world how great you are, you’re destroying the beauty of time, you’re destroying that moment.

When you say you’ll start your diet tomorrow, what you’re doing is you’re saying tomorrow is guaranteed and with that mindset you’re destroying the beauty of how short our lives really are.

Start living like you’re going to die, because you are.

Start taking action in the now because tomorrow is never guaranteed to come for you. When you start living like your time on this Earth is limited, you’ll stop making excuses for your mediocre existence and instead will start living the life you want.

When you stop trying to capture and devalue time you’ll be able to recognize the beauty of it as it flies high with its wings in tact. Enjoy that moment, stop trying to capture it. Immerse in watching that brief flight, before you know it it will be over and you’ll be the better person for watching the angel fly than you would if you were to just hold its lifeless and wingless body.

The time is going to pass either way and you are going to die, you might as well live.

Acta Non Verba,

Hunter Drew

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29 thoughts on “Excuses

  1. This post is dead on. So many men, so many excuses. You hear them all day long if you work with them. Then, they wonder why their lives suck and their wives won’t have sex with them. Life was meant to be lived, not just endured or survived. You can not live life fully sitting on your couch, watching football and telling everyone how great you used to be… How you could be great if it wasn’t for “X” holding you back. Good stuff.

  2. Another job well done. I’ve transformed my life over the past year, and still have a long way to go, but this article sums up the path I’ve taken towards improvement.

    1) Stop spending time on junk activities
    2) Priortize
    3) Execute
    4) Repeat

    Bookmarking this post to revisit periodically.

    Get that book done!

  3. Good advice as usual. I’ve been on this road for a year and a half now. No turning back. End of the year, time for a self assessment. What goals did I meet? Where did I slack off or foul up? Where do I want to be six months from now?

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  5. I just want to say thank you for this post, you’re helping me stay focused and work on being less of a push over, an excuse maker, and a family servant, it’s made me realize my power as the head of my own household and my life.

    To the guy out there that got pissed over the knee injury: I’ve got one too, I tripped and fell and busted up my tibular plateau. It required six very long screws, a metal plate, and two surgeries to fix, along with a lot of humility. That was three years ago. I may not be doing crossfit or sprinting like I was before my injury, but I can still walk, I can still do tons of upper body work and some reasonable lower body work. I even decided to take the next year to condition myself to learn Jiu-jitsu. It’s hard, I have to go slow, and I have to recognize my limits- I’ll never be spider man and I can’t compete like others, but the satisfaction I get by not letting my injury stop me is well worth it. (I also turn 40 in six months)
    I hope you’re out there and read this. Don’t let age or injury stop you. We all agree and we all get injured. Learning to deal with it is part of the process.

    • I just saw your comment, for some reason it went to my ‘Spam’ box.

      Solid message man, keep your foot on the gas and remember, it’s self-improvement to the grave.

      – Hunter

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  11. “Guys think they have all the time in the world to unfuck their situation. The fat say they’ll workout tomorrow, the poor say they’ll grind tomorrow, the weak say they’ll improve tomorrow. What if tomorrow never comes?”

    Shots fired. Fully enjoying your posts.

  12. I’ve often wondered what the RedPill was on Reddit and at first, didn’t understand it. Now I do. I wish I could email this post to my husband and him not be offended by it. There would be nothing hotter and sexier to me than if he just quit with the excuses, stood up and acted like what I think a dad and husband should be. As it is, I get the label of being the “masculine” one – I work out 4-5x a week, I work full time, I hunt, hike, etc. – if it’s outdoors I’m doin’ it – while he stays home with the kids. I spent the majority of December and January duck hunting every weekend, wishing he’d get his license and go with me. I work in construction, around a LOT of men – men who would surely take me at the drop of a hat – and all I want is HIM. I just want him. But I just don’t think that he can ever change, nor does he want to. It’s frustrating and disappointing. I want him to be the man I look up to. I want him to be the model of a man for our daughters, but I feel like it’s already too late. And perhaps this isn’t very “wifely” of me, but I’ve told him that in the future, if either of our daughters brought home a guy like him – lacking ambition or drive or masculinity – I would be so disappointed for them. I have tried being the hard-ass, and I have tried being the demure wife. Neither have motivated him. I guess it just needs to start with him; because I’m not sure what else I can do.

    • This is an area which I’m still working on myself.

      Right now, I don’t have an answer for women who are asking how to get their man to sack the fuck up.

      The answer is, I need to talk to him, the problem is how do you tell your man you want him to speak to another man abut being a man.

      Until he wants to change, nothing is going to improve.

      • Speaking As a female, I think that working on your end is the only thing you can do but that it does produce some amazing results if you genuinely lift him up, try to please him and meet his needs. He will be provoked and empowered to become more than he is now. There are two caveats. One – it is a long game, especially if he currently feels that you are not happy with him. Two – You have to be utterly sincere. You are not doing it for you, the marriage or, by extension, the kids. You are doing it because you have chosen to love him and have decided to bless him whether or not you ever feel better about the relationship. Men respond to femininity. It brings out the masculine. A good resource is ‘created to be his help meet’ by Debi pearl. It is very religious but totally ‘tell it like it is’.

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