Flip the Switch

Flip the Switch & send power to setting the gears of Masculinity into motion.

Flip the Switch & send power to setting the gears of Masculinity into motion.

How long it takes for you to unplug is directly related to how long it takes for you to accept reality for what it is, whether you’ve fully committed to the process, and how long it takes you to understand that nothing will be given, all must be earned.

Reality

The reality of the situation is that you’ve got a lot longer road than you think and unlike every movie you’ve ever seen, you’ll be walking this road alone.

You’re physique most likely needs a significant amount of time and dedicated decision making fitness wise before it looks like the body of a man who owns his shit.

Another unfortunate truth is that you’re most likely going to use the amount of time that you were a weak fuck as another excuse to justify your mediocrity.

When you don’t reach a goal or your wife shuts you down you’ll justify it with, “well I’m not supposed to be getting laid yet or desired by women because I was a pussy for 8 years.” What in the actual fuck does this mean?

I’ve seen too many posts on TRP & MRP where men say, “I know I’m not ‘Alpha’ enough yet, but-” shut it the fuck down right there. You are already displaying a weak mindset and are admitting that you still do not believe in you. You’ll never reach your goals without complete belief in self and a display of irrational self-confidence.

Here’s the brutally raw truth most are unable to ever digest.

You don’t want to become a masculine man, you just want your wife to fuck you a little more or respect you a little more. Taking ownership of your life is too difficult and you know that.

So you pretend.

You make the posts, read the books, say the word No a few times then go back to your comfortable land of easy, free of pain.

Because of this, you never find comfort in the discomfort and you never immerse yourself into the grind. You never get to experience the freedom which comes with total belief in self, free from the burden of trying to gain validation from a woman.

You never Flip the Switch in your mind and decide to completely own your fucking life.

Commitment

There is this stupid fucking notion that for every year you were a faggot it will take a month to recover.

This notion is pushed to prevent guys from going ‘Red Pill Rambo’, what men fail to see is that ‘Red Pill Rambo’ is not masculine, so the guys who are going to go off the fucking rocker and start demanding that their undeserved standards be met don’t need a warning, they’re going to fuck it up either way because they are trying to take submission via domineering behavior vice inspirational domination.

Like a light switch you flip your fucking mind from meek & reserved to masculine and confident.

You do that right now, this second.

You draw a boundary and do it for yourself, not for your kids, wife, parents, or friends.

You’re doing this for you and you alone. You start making time for yourself today to accomplish the goals you want and not the ones you think others expect you to set. The people around you are likely very mediocre, mainly because you’re mediocre and people stick with like-minded people.

If you’re going to ‘take the Red Pill‘ and face the raw apathetic nature of reality, then do so with the mindset that you’re going to fucking own it. Start noticing the walls confining you and strings controlling the system, then break that fucking mold.

Stop with this bullshit reserved attempt at reclamation of the masculine self.

You’re in or you’re out.

If you’re in, then dive into the deep end and learn to swim. Get rid of the life-ring and bullshit justifiers & “I know I’m not alpha enough yet‘ excuses.

I don’t give a fuck if you’re 100lbs overweight, just because your body is soft as play-dough it doesn’t mean your mind needs to be weak as well.

Look in the mirror, that’s your competition. That’s also the masculine man you’re working with to own this life, take care of your future self and commit today.

– Hunter
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9 thoughts on “Flip the Switch

  1. “I’ve seen too many posts on TRP & MRP where men say, “I know I’m not ‘Alpha’ enough yet, but-” shut it the fuck down right there. You are already displaying a weak mindset and are admitting that you still do not believe in you. You’ll never reach your goals without complete belief in self and a display of irrational self-confidence.

    Here’s the brutally raw truth most are unable to ever digest.

    You don’t want to become a masculine man, you just want your wife to fuck you a little more or respect you a little more. Taking ownership of your life is too difficult and you know that.

    So you pretend.

    You make the posts, read the books, say the word No a few times then go back to your comfortable land of easy, free of pain.

    Because of this, you never find comfort in the discomfort and you never immerse yourself into the grind. You never get to experience the freedom which comes with total belief in self, free from the burden of trying to gain validation from a woman.

    You never Flip the Switch in your mind and decide to completely own your fucking life.”

    Shots. Fucking. Fired.

    Hahaha. Love it.

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  2. “You’ll never reach your goals without complete belief in self and a display of irrational self-confidence.”

    OK, how do we do that? That is the part that always baffles me. “Just do it” is a shoe commercial, not advice. If it were that easy, I would have done it yesterday. So, how do we shed the decades of self doubt, mistakes, criticism, and watching other men coast by while, despite all of our efforts, we fail. Believing that, if we just try harder and dedicate ourselves, we will succeed. Yet that moment does not come.

    Men are creatures of reason. We see cause and effect, and we draw conclusions from that. We see the past and apply that learning to the future. So, how do we short circuit that? How do we ignore everything we know to be true and irrationally believe in something with no evidence? I really want to know.

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    • I have covered this in a few posts, I believe my ‘Lifting is step #1’ post touches on the first steps to take.

      The answer?

      You draw 1 boundary and you enforce it. Maybe you tell someone, “No.” or maybe you start a new hobby and *no matter what* anyone says to you or how they know you’re going to quit, you just keep going and disregard the impact & control others try to implement.

      In my post break the mold I try to expose the strings.

      If you’re in that boat and need to ‘short circuit’ your wiring, stick around for Project Men of March.

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  3. Fucking A. I just discovered your site yesterday, I’ve backtracked articles in hopes of reading everything in chronological order (for example, I didn’t know what Manosphere and Red Pill were, had to jump to those links). Is there a starting point that will take me through the articles in a ‘program’ type way, or do I need to search for the oldest articles and go that route?

    On another note, this shit is top notch. The first article I read yesterday lit a fire under my ass. I’m not where I want to be, but I’ve been actively working on that for the past several weeks, lifting included. I gained significant ground in my marriage, started seeing results, then I hit a wall. I’m motivated, tightening my shit daily, most importantly I’m fucking HUNGRY. The articles I began taking cues from weeks ago were pickup artist type articles designed for single guys, some great information, but missed the mark for my world. You are my new guide. This is exactly what I wanted/needed. Thank you for what you do. I’m a firm YES for Project Men of March.

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  4. Hunter,

    Really like this post. I had a lot of drive from my teens through my early 30’s. Worked out, got good grades, had fun friends and managed my finances. Married a hot chick, got a good job, and went to a top school for my MBA. I had it made right? Really lost my fire in my 30’s. Like a lot of other men, I blamed age, wife and the kids. What’s worse (to me) is when you are doing okay vs. doing bad. So I am not rich, not poor…just comfortable. The marriage (and sex) is not bad, not great – but good enough. I am still muscular, but definitely on the chubby side. But, I can just coast, right? What’s wrong with that?

    Like a lot of other men, I blamed age, wife and the kids. Now I know it’s me. I set the standard for myself. I remember when I used to tell myself “Winners do shit that other people are not willing to do.” And I was a winner in lot of areas of my life. I now again asking myself “what the fuck are you willing to do”. What am I willing to do to get the life that I want, vs. settling for the life that I have (which is not bad).

    Thanks for the inspiration.

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