“From dust we came and from dust we shall return.”
I am not a religious man and even I can see that it is no coincidence that we are beginning this journey on Ash Wednesday and living the message of reclaimed masculinity through lent, a period of fasting, or in our case, personal sacrifices.
The topic of ash is a perfect way to start the introduction to the Men of March. We have all risen or are going to rise from the ashes of our former ‘repressed’ selves. Some of you are still burning free, setting all of your weakness, regrets, and desires to avoid reality ablaze. Throughout this month we will burn that repressed self to the ground and from it the true raw you shall rise.
All men will find purpose throughout the posts for the entire month, but the focus is on those men who are balancing reclamation with self along with leading, guiding, listening, and sacrificing for the lives they are responsible for.
Single & divorced men have an entirely different reality than that of their committed brethren. I am the voice for those who aren’t pulling different women or don’t have the luxury to create and follow their own schedule without limitation from those around them.
I have a seven year old son and a four year old daughter, I understand the delicate balance needed to ensure they are given the necessary time required for their personal development as well as making time to keep the woman in our life our lover and not our friend.
I’m with you
I understand how full your plates are, I see that you’re suffering in silence and are frustrated that everyone is just telling you to ‘man up’, swallow the pill, and stop being a pussy.
For the next month, I need you to recognize that there are zero excuses for inability to perform the tasks. I’m not a single man providing perspective and guidance, I am a fellow Family Alpha.
For those who are aware of who I am and what it is I write about, this project is going to follow a different format than my normal format.
I’m not writing about my perspective on marriage, sex, masculinity, or the interpersonal dynamics in a marriage.
In this series, I’m writing solely for the Men of March, that’s you. Take a second to look away from the screen and let that truly sink in. You’re a Man, more than that you’re the Man and you’re worthy of a life that is more than simply existing.
I won’t be doing this for you; to be honest, I won’t even be giving you a very structured program. I will be facilitating you through the path of reclamation of self. You see, finding who you are as a man, is as unique to you as your finger print.
This isn’t about creating any type of caricatures, it’s about men being comfortable being men again. It’s about tapping back into that genuine I do not give a fuck confidence that radiates from men who own their shit and pursue their mission.
Your mission is yours and you alone know what it is.
I could never write a series for each man, so I’m writing a series for every man.
These are going to be ‘Choose Your Own Adventure’ type posts and it’s up to you to not only push yourself past your comfort zone but to do so with objective honesty.
I don’t know if you gave something your all or followed my challenge for that day, only you do. So invest in you and don’t let yourself down.
For the next 31 days I’m going to ask you some hard fucking questions and you’re going to want to provide the immediate answers you’ve been trained to give. We’re going past the walls you’ve confined yourself to for years. I’m going to force you into the wild where masculine men run.
I am going to take you, possibly as soft as sheep’s fur and I’m going to introduce you to the lions and force you to run with them.
You will make it if you truly want to.
If you’re a man who is looking to reclaim his masculine nature, then you will and you will forever look back to this moment and smile, thanking yourself for taking the necessary action to own your life and not let life own you.
There will be a few challenges and a few rules throughout the month which will be covered below.
Before I get into Day #1, I’d like to preface it with this little piece of advice.
You’re reading this for a reason.
Something happened in your life which led you to a place where you recognized the need to create a masculine self or reclaim that masculine man who once was.
You’ve probably tried a few challenges like these before, at the least you’ve tried to make some changes and for whatever reason, they’ve never worked.
The reason you’ve yet to achieve the level of satisfaction you desire is because you’ve looked everywhere but inside your heart and mind for the answer to your woes.
The failure was yours.
You are the problem.
The beauty in accepting this is that you are also the solution…
Don’t quit on yourself this time.
Don’t give in to the incessant pleading from the voice in your head which says, “It’s OK to break this little rule, or cheat on this rep because it’s just a stupid internet challenge, this doesn’t really matter.”
Because brother, everything I advise throughout the next month matters.
It isn’t the pushups I will have you doing which will really make a difference, it’s choosing to do the pushups which is what you require.
You say you’re a man who deserves respect, submission, & inspires fear in his enemies.
The motto of The Family Alpha is Act, Non Verba which translates to Deeds, Not Words.
Stop telling yourself and the world how great you are and be great.
I don’t want to read a single fucking comment from a man saying, “Hey Hunter, I made it to day 10 then I watched porn because x, y, z.”
I don’t care; you failed and you know it, you don’t deserve the life you see other masculine men living. They worked for what they have and obviously it’s too hard for you.
Choose to commit to you; prove to yourself you’re worth the life you desire.
Brothers, choose to be better.
Choose to place your masculine ‘self’ first.
You’ve tried all of the other programs and strategies, this one is different. This program is written by the Family Alpha, one of the most genuine blogs there is for masculine men (married or not).
I truly want you to succeed, but in order to do that, you must commit to yourself.
Don’t give up on you; you’re worth it and you’re capable of so much more than you’ve currently revealed to the world.
Give me this one month.
You can do anything for one month if you truly put your mind to it. Show yourself that you are as strong as you think you are.
Show yourself that you deserve the life you want.
Believe in you and that life will suddenly start to appear.
It starts with you.
Day #1 Marching into Masculinity
I served in the Navy for 8 years; marching is something I am all too familiar with. While most military men would agree, marching sucks; but, marching is also kind of badass, because you’re tight, those around you are crisp and mirroring your every move and you them, there’s something in the precision of movement built from hours of dedication which, when forced to display is something you take pride in.
This is exactly what we’re doing today gentlemen. We are marching into the month of March with one thing in mind, reclamation and dedication to expressing the masculine ‘self’ which has been repressed in ost, never cultivated in some.
There are a few rules which are zero tolerance. This means if you break them, then you, sir, are incapable of committing to yourself.
I have zero fucks to give if you agree with my rhyme or reason, this is my program, my challenge, and all you have to do is read, commit to yourself, and fucking follow the simple rules.
The rules of Men of March:
- You will not masturbate, edge, or touch your dick for pleasure during the entire month. You can have sex, but not with yourself.
- You will not watch porn, sexy gifs, look at provocative photos or anything of the sort as this will lead to you breaking rule one.
- You will do 100 pushups every day. Don’t give the ‘time’ excuse, or any excuse as I don’t give a fuck, just do them. Break it up however you have to, but before you sleep at night, 100 must be done; chest day or not.
- You must start reading a book. Even if it’s just a few pages a day at first you must be reading a book. I will be reading New World Ronin by Victor Pride this month. You don’t have to finish the book in the month, just actively read a few pages every day to build the habit. With that said, my goal is to finish the book this month.
- You have to start giving genuine answers to people. If someone asks if you’re busy, don’t say “No” when you are. You have to stop avoiding conflict at the expense of your true self. If your wife asks a question, give an answer, “I don’t know/care” Is not an answer a leader gives to his crew. Start knowing, start caring, and start telling the world your true opinion.
- If you have a vice, remove it. You have to be honest with yourself; if you’re overweight and drinking to numb or are smoking pot and being unproductive, that shit has to go. This isn’t a ‘dry’ challenge, if alcohol or pot isn’t a problem good to go. If it’s more than that, leave it be for the month.
- Every day there will be a challenge, you must complete it.
- Do 100 pushups.
- Write down 3 goals you are going to achieve by the end of March.
Write down three ways, under each goal, that you are going to achieve that goal.
Now do the same thing except lengthen to deadline to the end of June.
You should have six goals & eighteen ways you’re going to achieve them.
- 3 Short Term (End of March) with 3 roadmap actions to achieving each.
- 3 Long Term (End of June) with 3 roadmap actions to achieving each
Wrapping up Day #1
Day #1 included the introduction, some explanation, and the rules as well as first challenge.
Understand, you set the tempo for this challenge. You decide what your goals are and you decide whether they are legitimate or not. I’m not here to judge or discuss what you should be doing.
Tomorrow will get a little more personal and will look more like the rest of the posts. This one was to give everyone a tour of the battle field. Now it’s time for you to complete your March 1st challenges and start living a more masculine life.