Day #4: Give it, Sell it, Toss it

Day #1, Day #2, Day #3

Yesterday’s Recap: Each day I’ll do a brief recap from the day before. Day #3 consisted of doing something new with the family, wife, or alone.

Life is about experiences and as we age the immersion in something new is replaced by something that’s been tried, tested, and is reliable.

We go to places where we know what we’re going to get, how we’re going to get it, and we’re comfortable with that.

This is detrimental to the ‘euphoric’ experience of immersing in an environment which is absolutely foreign to us.

But that immersion is living…

Creating an experience at home leads to the kids creating these memories of their dad being way cooler than the other dads. It leads to them not only having a great time, but having a great time with their parents, strengthening that ‘inter-clan’ bond.

Creating these unique memories with the wife (at home or not) builds her attraction to you and ensure she recognized that you aren’t just some routine, boring as fuck dude.

In your own mind these experiences of something ‘new’ will promote the habit of ‘breaking routine’ and creates this interesting ‘you never know what he’s going to do’ persona.

Quite a few of our brothers shared their experience on Twitter & Reddit and the results were incredible. They had new foods, new drinks, the family had a blast, and their wife was laughing and enjoying the moment radiating her feminine beauty like never before.

Keep grinding brothers, we’re only on day #4

Daily Reminder

Men,

Don’t reward yourself with a drink after work if you’ve given it up for the month. Don’t jerk off when your wife isn’t around because that’s the only way you can fall asleep or that you ‘need to relax’.

This is about doing it differently, it’s about doing it right.

It’s so easy to say yes when some offers you a smoke or drink.

You must say no.

Show yourself that you’re worthy of the life you feel you deserve. There are no second chances; you’re either all in or you aren’t.

If you fail, confess to it and try to continue on. Be sure to share it, hiding and pretending you’re still marching with the real men will only drive your self-hate to even greater heights.

This is about reclaiming your masculine nature. You’re worth the physical and mental pain required to complete that task.

Suffer with me for this month and you’ll forever be able to claim the glory of being an original Man of March.

Reminder: The rules of Men of March:

  1. You will not masturbate, edge, or touch your dick for pleasure during the entire month. You can have sex, but not with yourself.
  2. You will not watch porn, sexy gifs, look at provocative photos or anything of the sort as this will lead to you breaking rule one.
  3. You will do 100 pushups every day. Don’t give the ‘time’ excuse, or any excuse as I don’t give a fuck, just do them. Break it up however you have to, but before you sleep at night, 100 must be done; chest day or not.
  4. You must start reading a book. Even if it’s just a few pages a day at first you must be reading a book. I will be reading New World Ronin by Victor Pride this month. You don’t have to finish the book in the month, just actively read a few pages every day to build the habit. With that said, my goal is to finish the book this month.
  5. You have to start giving genuine answers to people. If someone asks if you’re busy, don’t say “No” when you are. You have to stop avoiding conflict at the expense of your true self. If your wife asks a question, give an answer, “I don’t know/care” Is not an answer a leader gives to his crew. Start knowing, start caring, and start telling the world your true opinion.
  6. If you have a vice, remove it. You have to be honest with yourself; if you’re overweight and drinking to numb or are smoking pot and being unproductive, that shit has to go. This isn’t a ‘dry’ challenge, if alcohol or pot isn’t a problem good to go. If it’s more than that, leave it be for the month.
  7. Every day there will be a challenge, you must complete it.
Break free from the rat race. Own your life, don't let it own you.

Break free from the rat race. Own your life, don’t let it own you.

Day #4: Toss it, Give it, Sell it

We live in a society which promotes ‘over-consumption‘ of everything.

Men eat too much, drink too much, buy too much, and overall they own too much.

Today, you’re going to face the music and look at your life objectively; do you really need all of the shit you have?

My wife & I have what we call a ‘Spartan Mindset’ when it comes to possessions. After having to move so frequently while in the military we stopped hoarding shit and simply decided to get rid of things which we did not use.

Life isn’t about accumulating stuff.

In fact, the solution to most of the problems people face isn’t lack of anything, it’s the accumulation of too much.

The guys who are having problems with finding that sense of purpose or identity are usually suffering from the disorder of constantly adding to their life when in fact they should be removing the unessential.

It is the removal of excess which will create a more efficient life, not the addition of more.

Life is about experiencing the moment each and every day. There are some things which help us experience life, I have a Wrangler and driving with the top & doors off gives myself & those who ride with me an experience.

The same could be said for a gun, tools, a motorcycle, etc.

The point is, most of the shit you have serves no purpose.

That’s a problem and today we’re going to fix it.

Your mind shouldn't be filled with turmoil, clear it by removing the unessential.

Your mind shouldn’t be filled with turmoil, clear it by removing the unessential.

Challenge #4

  1. 100 Push-Ups
  2. Go through all of your possessions and objectively ask yourself, What is really bringing value to my life?

If you haven’t used it, will probably never need it, and only hang on to it ‘just in-case‘ then you need to give it to someone who will use it frequently, sell it and make some $$$, or just throw it away.

Too many men hang on to things, just because.

Look, the clutter in your physical life is creating clutter in your mind. Just the act of clearing up your life will in turn make your mind feel a little less ‘bogged down’.

The shit people own owns them and like a silent killer it weighs down on their heart, mind, and soul.

Break the cycle by getting all the bullshit in your life out of your shed, garage, house, room, everywhere.

Books you’ve read that didn’t have an impact, give them to someone and make their day. Tools that are duplicates of one another, clear it up.

Do you really need 6 Hex Key sets which are all the same size?

Give as much as you can to those who would need it. This clears your mind, makes their day, and in turn makes them view you as someone who is looking out for their best interest which in turn creates a more loyal bond and you’re feeling a little ‘lighter’ in the process.

If you own shit which you simply own to own, toss it.

You don’t have to hang on to it just because you bought it. If it served its purpose and is no longer of use or something you need, get rid of it.

Anything which has value you should try to get the value from. Whether that’s a yard sale, eBay, or Craig’s list it makes no difference.

If you want to get something for what you’re clearing from your mind then do so, but don’t justify hanging on to something because ‘nobody has bid yet‘ as that just means you don’t know how to sell or the item doesn’t have value.

The final option is to junk it.

I recently did this with a box of wires. We had chargers to all sorts of shit and cables to who knows what. I had saved it ‘just in case‘ and after two years I recognized that moment hadn’t come and the box was taking up space from shit I do use, so I went through, grabbed two phone chargers which would work and tossed out the other 30.

To the men who say, maybe you’ll need one of those someday.

Spending the $10 later on is better than suffering from a ‘clutter mindset’ now.

Bring a new sense of 'calm' to your life and that of your family by helping them climb out of the pile of 'stuff' which is weighing them down.

Bring a new sense of ‘calm’ to your life and that of your family by helping them climb out of the pile of ‘stuff’ which is weighing them down.

Wrapping up Day #4

We have too much and live too little, we fix this today.

Go through your stuff, have your wife go through her’s, and go through your kid’s things.

Get rid of shit they don’t use and do not fall victim to the, “Well I’ll use it someday” excuse.

We need to stop being afraid to part with possession; we own them, they don’t own us.

Once the clutter is removed, watch how everyone can step back and breath deep. A perfect opportunity for you to lead and talk to your family about how life is more than Keeping up with the Joneses

You have to go through everything and objectively ask yourself, Why do I own this? If the items purpose is not immediately clear or you do not instantly recognize its value, then maybe you have it ‘just because’ and that’s a loser’s mindset.

Stop living as a consumer and start living as a man with a Spartan Mindset.

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29 thoughts on “Day #4: Give it, Sell it, Toss it

  1. On day 2 I had the feeling that the weekend challenges would be something like this. Already made a plan to de-clutter my bedroom and the kid’s, but it may take both Saturday and Sunday. I like the themes of the challenges, day 1 for our inner-self, day 2 outter-self, day 3 relationships, day 4 environment, I suppose tomorrow will be something god-related?

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  3. Yikes! What great insight. I read this as first time reader…just after daughter and I kiwi polished all the leather shoes in the house. Something I’ve done for decades, now doing it with kids. Yeah, I have too much shit still…

    Awesome.

    Oh, the no masturbation thing is interesting. I stopped masturbating about 10 years ago. Not a churchy thing either. It wasn’t satisfying. What I was left with was a wicked libido and threw it all at my wife, in exotic ways even. The desire to fiercely bang my wife is instrumental in going all-in RP. Low sex was never present and thus not a hurdle. Fell backwards into that one.

    I do monitor her reaction to my forceful sexuality. Good gauge of where I stand Alpha-wise.

    Great site, and all the best, Alpha dads.

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  5. This is getting a lot more challenging, and afraid I half assed it today. Got the hundred pushups done (somehow) but was out of house for six hours at daughter’s soccer tournament, came home for an hour then off on another errand. I did take 40 minutes or so to clean my nightstand – which was a mound of paper 95% of which I did not need and threw out. Now I understand I have to find an hour all by myself tomorrow? I am going to have to claim I was kidnapped.

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    • Don’t feel that way. Yes, since Friday challenges have been more time-consuming and perhaps you already had plans that couldn’t be changed. In my case, Friday’s push-ups where not completed, but the play date with my kid was a blast. Saturday was kinda booked so cleaning was actually started on sunday and push-ups were not completed because arms hurt, not because of soreness but because of me not doing it properly (no warm up, clothing not good, etc) Did half, couldn’t continue because of pain, went to a kind of chiropractor and now feeling waaay better, I’ll catch up with the missing reps today and tomorrow.
      Also, cleaning was more demanding that I thought, for now kid’s bedroom is done (with minor review of toys pending, but clothing and non-kid-related stuff taken care of: 2 big bags of trash out, and 1 of clothing and some shoes) and my room will be done asap during the week.
      My point is: not sticking 100℅ to the challenge’s schedule is not what’s important, but “waking up” and gaining consciousness of what needs improvement and acting upon it, even if it’s small steps.
      Keep up the grind brother

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  6. traveling in Asia since March started but trying to keep up. I am getting my push-ups in each day. I will revisit this post when I get home. my office is so full of shit it’s dad. I know there is a box of BMW GS1200 parts under the printer table. the bike was totaled four years ago and I’m driving a Harley now. WTF!

    after the office I’ll tackle the garage.

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  20. I found this late so I am following two weeks behind. Yesterday was Day #3 for me. I was feeling pretty good about getting it done yesterday, then woke up and read the recap today and realized I’d failed the challenge after all.

    I had focused on the spontaneous and fun aspects (which worked), but completely missed on making it something new.

    Ah well. Pick up, learn and move forward. The purging has already begun today.

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