Yesterday’s Recap: Each day I’ll do a brief recap from the day before. Day #3 consisted of doing something new with the family, wife, or alone.
Life is about experiences and as we age the immersion in something new is replaced by something that’s been tried, tested, and is reliable.
We go to places where we know what we’re going to get, how we’re going to get it, and we’re comfortable with that.
This is detrimental to the ‘euphoric’ experience of immersing in an environment which is absolutely foreign to us.
But that immersion is living…
Creating an experience at home leads to the kids creating these memories of their dad being way cooler than the other dads. It leads to them not only having a great time, but having a great time with their parents, strengthening that ‘inter-clan’ bond.
Creating these unique memories with the wife (at home or not) builds her attraction to you and ensure she recognized that you aren’t just some routine, boring as fuck dude.
In your own mind these experiences of something ‘new’ will promote the habit of ‘breaking routine’ and creates this interesting ‘you never know what he’s going to do’ persona.
Quite a few of our brothers shared their experience on Twitter & Reddit and the results were incredible. They had new foods, new drinks, the family had a blast, and their wife was laughing and enjoying the moment radiating her feminine beauty like never before.
Keep grinding brothers, we’re only on day #4
Don’t reward yourself with a drink after work if you’ve given it up for the month. Don’t jerk off when your wife isn’t around because that’s the only way you can fall asleep or that you ‘need to relax’.
This is about doing it differently, it’s about doing it right.
It’s so easy to say yes when some offers you a smoke or drink.
You must say no.
Show yourself that you’re worthy of the life you feel you deserve. There are no second chances; you’re either all in or you aren’t.
If you fail, confess to it and try to continue on. Be sure to share it, hiding and pretending you’re still marching with the real men will only drive your self-hate to even greater heights.
This is about reclaiming your masculine nature. You’re worth the physical and mental pain required to complete that task.
Suffer with me for this month and you’ll forever be able to claim the glory of being an original Man of March.
Reminder: The rules of Men of March:
- You will not masturbate, edge, or touch your dick for pleasure during the entire month. You can have sex, but not with yourself.
- You will not watch porn, sexy gifs, look at provocative photos or anything of the sort as this will lead to you breaking rule one.
- You will do 100 pushups every day. Don’t give the ‘time’ excuse, or any excuse as I don’t give a fuck, just do them. Break it up however you have to, but before you sleep at night, 100 must be done; chest day or not.
- You must start reading a book. Even if it’s just a few pages a day at first you must be reading a book. I will be reading New World Ronin by Victor Pride this month. You don’t have to finish the book in the month, just actively read a few pages every day to build the habit. With that said, my goal is to finish the book this month.
- You have to start giving genuine answers to people. If someone asks if you’re busy, don’t say “No” when you are. You have to stop avoiding conflict at the expense of your true self. If your wife asks a question, give an answer, “I don’t know/care” Is not an answer a leader gives to his crew. Start knowing, start caring, and start telling the world your true opinion.
- If you have a vice, remove it. You have to be honest with yourself; if you’re overweight and drinking to numb or are smoking pot and being unproductive, that shit has to go. This isn’t a ‘dry’ challenge, if alcohol or pot isn’t a problem good to go. If it’s more than that, leave it be for the month.
- Every day there will be a challenge, you must complete it.
Day #4: Toss it, Give it, Sell it
We live in a society which promotes ‘over-consumption‘ of everything.
Men eat too much, drink too much, buy too much, and overall they own too much.
Today, you’re going to face the music and look at your life objectively; do you really need all of the shit you have?
My wife & I have what we call a ‘Spartan Mindset’ when it comes to possessions. After having to move so frequently while in the military we stopped hoarding shit and simply decided to get rid of things which we did not use.
Life isn’t about accumulating stuff.
In fact, the solution to most of the problems people face isn’t lack of anything, it’s the accumulation of too much.
The guys who are having problems with finding that sense of purpose or identity are usually suffering from the disorder of constantly adding to their life when in fact they should be removing the unessential.
It is the removal of excess which will create a more efficient life, not the addition of more.
Life is about experiencing the moment each and every day. There are some things which help us experience life, I have a Wrangler and driving with the top & doors off gives myself & those who ride with me an experience.
The same could be said for a gun, tools, a motorcycle, etc.
The point is, most of the shit you have serves no purpose.
That’s a problem and today we’re going to fix it.
- 100 Push-Ups
- Go through all of your possessions and objectively ask yourself, What is really bringing value to my life?
If you haven’t used it, will probably never need it, and only hang on to it ‘just in-case‘ then you need to give it to someone who will use it frequently, sell it and make some $$$, or just throw it away.
Too many men hang on to things, just because.
Look, the clutter in your physical life is creating clutter in your mind. Just the act of clearing up your life will in turn make your mind feel a little less ‘bogged down’.
The shit people own owns them and like a silent killer it weighs down on their heart, mind, and soul.
Break the cycle by getting all the bullshit in your life out of your shed, garage, house, room, everywhere.
Books you’ve read that didn’t have an impact, give them to someone and make their day. Tools that are duplicates of one another, clear it up.
Do you really need 6 Hex Key sets which are all the same size?
Give as much as you can to those who would need it. This clears your mind, makes their day, and in turn makes them view you as someone who is looking out for their best interest which in turn creates a more loyal bond and you’re feeling a little ‘lighter’ in the process.
If you own shit which you simply own to own, toss it.
You don’t have to hang on to it just because you bought it. If it served its purpose and is no longer of use or something you need, get rid of it.
Anything which has value you should try to get the value from. Whether that’s a yard sale, eBay, or Craig’s list it makes no difference.
If you want to get something for what you’re clearing from your mind then do so, but don’t justify hanging on to something because ‘nobody has bid yet‘ as that just means you don’t know how to sell or the item doesn’t have value.
The final option is to junk it.
I recently did this with a box of wires. We had chargers to all sorts of shit and cables to who knows what. I had saved it ‘just in case‘ and after two years I recognized that moment hadn’t come and the box was taking up space from shit I do use, so I went through, grabbed two phone chargers which would work and tossed out the other 30.
To the men who say, maybe you’ll need one of those someday.
Spending the $10 later on is better than suffering from a ‘clutter mindset’ now.
Wrapping up Day #4
We have too much and live too little, we fix this today.
Go through your stuff, have your wife go through her’s, and go through your kid’s things.
Get rid of shit they don’t use and do not fall victim to the, “Well I’ll use it someday” excuse.
We need to stop being afraid to part with possession; we own them, they don’t own us.
Once the clutter is removed, watch how everyone can step back and breath deep. A perfect opportunity for you to lead and talk to your family about how life is more than Keeping up with the Joneses
You have to go through everything and objectively ask yourself, Why do I own this? If the items purpose is not immediately clear or you do not instantly recognize its value, then maybe you have it ‘just because’ and that’s a loser’s mindset.
Stop living as a consumer and start living as a man with a Spartan Mindset.