Yesterday’s Recap: Each day I’ll do a brief recap from the day before. Day #6 forced men to take an account of where their time and money is being spent. More than one of our brethren identified multiple areas where they are being drained by Time & Dime Vampires, which was the point of the challenge.
I’m not writing these challenges and asking you to review your life because I want to hear how great you’re doing, I’m writing because I want you to know where you are failing.
This movement is not about sucking your own dick and talking about how you are a masculine man. It’s about reclaiming and strengthening your masculine ‘self’.
Find the cracks in your foundation and find the areas where you’re weak. Once you can objectively identify your failures you are able to isolate and destroy them.
It’s like the day #2 challenge, you don’t get to avoid where you’re failing and complacency in one area while strengthening another is failing.
This is not your average challenge or campaign to reclaiming your sense of self;
We’re building the Men of March here and I am not fucking around with your feelings or comfort; I’m here to help you man the fuck up and in order to do so, you have to make honest assessments and come up with a plan to execute and implement a solution.
The following challenge requires an honest assessment, are you capable of removing your ego and taking a look at your performance in life?
Don’t reward yourself with a drink after work if you’ve given it up for the month. Don’t jerk off when your wife isn’t around because that’s the only way you can fall asleep or that you ‘need to relax’.
This is about doing it differently, it’s about doing it right.
It’s so easy to say yes when some offers you a smoke or drink.
You must say no.
Show yourself that you’re worthy of the life you feel you deserve. There are no second chances; you’re either all in or you aren’t.
If you fail, confess to it and try to continue on. Be sure to share it, hiding and pretending you’re still marching with the real men will only drive your self-hate to even greater heights.
This is about reclaiming your masculine nature. You’re worth the physical and mental pain required to complete that task.
Suffer with me for this month and you’ll forever be able to claim the glory of being an original Man of March.
Reminder: The rules of Men of March:
- You will not masturbate, edge, or touch your dick for pleasure during the entire month. You can have sex, but not with yourself.
- You will not watch porn, sexy gifs, look at provocative photos or anything of the sort as this will lead to you breaking rule one.
- You will do 100 pushups every day. Don’t give the ‘time’ excuse, or any excuse as I don’t give a fuck, just do them. Break it up however you have to, but before you sleep at night, 100 must be done; chest day or not.
- You must start reading a book. Even if it’s just a few pages a day at first you must be reading a book. I will be reading New World Ronin by Victor Pride this month. You don’t have to finish the book in the month, just actively read a few pages every day to build the habit. With that said, my goal is to finish the book this month.
- You have to start giving genuine answers to people. If someone asks if you’re busy, don’t say “No” when you are. You have to stop avoiding conflict at the expense of your true self. If your wife asks a question, give an answer, “I don’t know/care” Is not an answer a leader gives to his crew. Start knowing, start caring, and start telling the world your true opinion.
- If you have a vice, remove it. You have to be honest with yourself; if you’re overweight and drinking to numb or are smoking pot and being unproductive, that shit has to go. This isn’t a ‘dry’ challenge, if alcohol or pot isn’t a problem good to go. If it’s more than that, leave it be for the month.
- Every day there will be a challenge, you must complete it.
Day #7: The Gas Pedal
If you’re not first, you’re last.
Quite a few men have said that they were able to do x challenge, but not y goal. To this I’m calling bullshit.
The trait these men exhibit are remnants of their ‘Pre-March’ self. They feel that because they put effort in over here, that it justified their lack of performance over there.
Like a gas pedal sometimes you have to punch it down and burn some rubber while other times you’ve got to release some pressure and just coast.
This would make sense, but in the real world there isn’t one pedal.
Each area of your life, each goal you set and responsibility you have has its own pedal and you are either pushing it to the floor and grinding in pursuit of that goal, or you’re coasting for a reason you feel justifies it.
#MenofMarch is a challenge you decided to take on. You chose to commit yourself to a program for a month. This means, that at no point, are you able to coast because the commitment you took on clearly stated that it required you to be grinding ‘all in‘ for the month.
Are there times to ‘coast’? Yes.
At one point a few years ago, I almost deleted TFA because I was overwhelmed and wasn’t sure whether anyone was understanding what it was I was saying. So, I took some time away from the keyboard.
During this time, I was coasting with regards to blogging but I was still coaching, fucking, and killing it at work. Just because I was bogged down in one area does not mean I am allowed to justify poor performance in another.
Maybe work stresses you out, that doesn’t mean you can come home daily and ‘relax’ as that just makes you stressed out dad and husband to your wife and kids when in fact you should compartmentalize work from home and come home motivated as hell.
You need a different compartment in your mind for every area of life and each one of those compartments shall have its own pedal.
Don’t justify coasting because something else wore you down. Keep grinding and when you’re ready, go back to what you took a break from and get back to work.
The masculine man doesn’t have time to look for people to support him as he cries his problems away. You have work to do, remove excuses and identify where you’re coasting, the push the pedal to the floor.
- 100 Push-Ups
- Take an honest assessment of how well you’re performing in every area of your life.
In challenge two you were forced to face the inner demon which you’d been avoiding for far too long.
This is different than that.
I’m asking you to look at your performance and identify the areas where maybe you aren’t doing as well as you thought. A few examples:
- Sex: Look at the quality, are you giving her a good dicking where she is left their quivering or are you a two pump chump who really doesn’t have a fuck to give whether she enjoyed it at all or not? What about the frequency, are you playing games or too busy to fuck your girl? Is it fun, are you guys laughing as much as you’re moaning? Do you make it naughty, using rope, glow sticks, road head, etc.? Are you fucking her bowlegged at times then mixing it up and making total sensual love?
- Work: Are you a wage slave who says you hate your job yet you aren’t applying elsewhere, fixing a resume, or open to the idea of moving to a different region? Do you complain about lack of appreciation yet do nothing to make it happen or find another branch to reach your goals?
- Parenting: Have you read my posts on Modern Agoge? If so, have you gone further and made your own? Do you read to your kids, actually educate them, or do something aside from sit on the sideline at their events?
- Fitness: Do you feel your physique is good enough because when you suck it in and flex you can sort of see abs? Do you think that because you aren’t as obese as the other dads out there that you are by default, ‘the hot dad’? Can you answer what your 1rm of Bench, deadlift, and squat is?
These are but a few examples, there are many more you’ve got to go through today and take an honest assessment of whether you’re coasting or accelerating.
Before you can decide on what you’re going to do with that gas pedal, you’ve got to answer honestly, are you giving this your best?
Wrapping up Day #7
There are a lot of areas in our life where we want to think we’re owning and taking charge, but often time’s pursuit of one goal means the sacrifice of another.
For the masculine man, he puts his entire effort into everything he does.
There are only so many minutes to the day, you cannot achieve every goal you’d like to achieve, but for those which you are pursuing, ensure that you aren’t coasting when you should be putting the pedal to the metal.