Day #8: Stop, Collaborate, & Listen

Day #1Day #2Day #3Day #4Day #5Day #6, Day #7(Week One Done)

Yesterday’s Recap: Each day I’ll do a brief recap from the day before. Day #7 required you to look over the various aspects of who you are as a man to ensure that your success in one area didn’t lead to failure in another.

You have to be the man who is absolutely killing it at work, at home, physically, and mentally.

You’ve got to fill the roles of husband, brother, son, father and at all times, that of masculine man.

Your success in specific areas should not lead to complacency in others, at no point should you let off the gas thinking, ‘I’ve made it.‘ because you haven’t.

The name of this game called Life is continuous self-improvement to the grave.

Raise your standard in every area and remove the weak voice in your head which tells you that ‘it’s ok to take a break because you’ve been trying so hard…‘.

Don’t take your foot off the gas, keep improving brothers.

Daily Reminder


Don’t reward yourself with a drink after work if you’ve given it up for the month. Don’t jerk off when your wife isn’t around because that’s the only way you can fall asleep or that you ‘need to relax’.

This is about doing it differently, it’s about doing it right.

It’s so easy to say yes when some offers you a smoke or drink.

You must say no.

Show yourself that you’re worthy of the life you feel you deserve. There are no second chances; you’re either all in or you aren’t.

If you fail, confess to it and try to continue on. Be sure to share it, hiding and pretending you’re still marching with the real men will only drive your self-hate to even greater heights.

This is about reclaiming your masculine nature. You’re worth the physical and mental pain required to complete that task.

Suffer with me for this month and you’ll forever be able to claim the glory of being an original Man of March.

Reminder: The rules of Men of March:

  1. You will not masturbate, edge, or touch your dick for pleasure during the entire month. You can have sex, but not with yourself.
  2. You will not watch porn, sexy gifs, look at provocative photos or anything of the sort as this will lead to you breaking rule one.
  3. You will do 100 pushups every day. Don’t give the ‘time’ excuse, or any excuse as I don’t give a fuck, just do them. Break it up however you have to, but before you sleep at night, 100 must be done; chest day or not.
  4. You must start reading a book. Even if it’s just a few pages a day at first you must be reading a book. I will be reading New World Ronin by Victor Pride this month. You don’t have to finish the book in the month, just actively read a few pages every day to build the habit. With that said, my goal is to finish the book this month.
  5. You have to start giving genuine answers to people. If someone asks if you’re busy, don’t say “No” when you are. You have to stop avoiding conflict at the expense of your true self. If your wife asks a question, give an answer, “I don’t know/care” Is not an answer a leader gives to his crew. Start knowing, start caring, and start telling the world your true opinion.
  6. If you have a vice, remove it. You have to be honest with yourself; if you’re overweight and drinking to numb or are smoking pot and being unproductive, that shit has to go. This isn’t a ‘dry’ challenge, if alcohol or pot isn’t a problem good to go. If it’s more than that, leave it be for the month.
  7. Every day there will be a challenge, you must complete it.

Every now & then you need to stop, center yourself, bring balance to your life, then continue marching forward.

Day #8: Stop, Collaborate, & Listen

Every 8 days during the Men of March we’ll take a day to stop, look around and take an inventory, and make sure that we aren’t missing an issue that is hiding in plain sight.

Look at the three goals you wrote down on Day #1, are you marching towards their completion? Are you knocking out your push-ups or do you find yourself squeezing them in right before bed? How can you take better care of your future self and set your days up for greater efficiency and success?

There may be areas where you’re failing, today is the day where you reach out and ask a fellow man for help. Whether that means emailing me, asking for a fitness guy to create a program, etc.

You need help? Ask for it.


Challenge #8

  1. 100 Push-Ups
  2. STOP pushing into new territory and discovery of self and instead, look where you’re at. Look at the goals you set on day #1, are you getting closer to completion? Are you ensuring that as you thrive and feel the pride that comes with reclamation of self, is your family also being taken care of and feeling that same pride within themselves? Relax and make sure everything is running smooth.
  3. COLLABORATE with your fellow man. If you’re stuck whether it be finance, fitness, sex, whatever I want you to reach out to a masculine mentor. It can be someone in ‘real life’ or it can be someone on Twitter, reddit, a blog you follow wherever. What matters is that you swallow your pride and you reach out to work with someone to fix an issue. If you don’t have an issue then work on a project with a friend, your wife, or your kids. The point is that masculine men lead and work together; we don’t repeatedly discuss problems, we work towards solutions.
  4. Listen: While you are marching to the beat of the masculine drum, how are those around you doing? Often times I find that I am aware that there is something up with my wife or kids well before they tell me, how? I ‘listen’ to their body language, tone, rate of speech, and the topics they bring up. Put your ear to the ground and truly listen to what is going on with those around you. How can you help them get through and raise their own personal standard?

Wrapping up Day #8


Every now and then you need to take an inventory of where you’re at. Like maintenance on a car, you’ve got to take preventative measures to keep yourself from having to take corrective actions. It’s why we change our oil, rotate tires, and wash the damn thing.

Every 8 days during the month of March we’ll perform some preventative maintenance to fix the problems before they ever occur.

Today is your first ‘Preventative Maintenance’ day, enjoy it and find the areas which are showing signs of becoming a future problem.

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33 thoughts on “Day #8: Stop, Collaborate, & Listen

  1. Amazing contrast, yesterday pushing the pedal and today making sure we are steering in the right direction. It is useless to go fast if we are going in the wrong direction.


    • So become a dwarf, king under that mountain, and start to climb.

      This isn’t about the ease of living, it’s about reclamation of self.

      Every time you fail you learn what you *aren’t* capable of, not yet at least.

      Just get up and try harder. I don’t care that you fell, I only care that you’re man enough to get back up.


  2. My fails are starting to snowball – its a lack of intensity and commitment. I have been through this dozens of time. Make some progress and then self-sabotage. I really do not understand it. Maybe its just taking the easy familiar way. Have missed the hundred pushups twice already. Have edged/porn indulged three days.

    I look at my goals; they are so worthwhile. Why can’t I discipline myself to get there.

    Making time for myself? Nope, still “live to serve” wife and to lesser extent kids.

    Weight loss? have lost 20% of goal but we are 25% of way through the month.

    Productivity at work? Continue to waste time, primarily on the internet.

    I know what I need to do, why don’t I do it? Is it I just don’t want it enough? Or I just don’t want it? I cannot believe that’s true.


    • Here’s the truth you’re either afraid of success or you’re too weak.

      I want you to succeed, but I can’t make you.

      If you are content and don’t want to push further, don’t. This is Men of march, only men will pick themselves up and push forward, step by brutal step.

      the rest won’t and that’s ok, not everyone is a winner.

      But, if you choose to stay down, accept that you don’t deserve the respect and submission you see your fellow men relishing in.

      They are putting in the work, you aren’t, you’re talking.

      Don’t watch movies and think you’d be the hero, you have an opportunity, here and right fucking now to show that you ARE the fucking and you ARE the hero of your life story.

      But the decision is your’s. and your’s alone.

      Join the ranks of your brethren, or recognize that you stayed in the town when the 300 marched off to glory.


    • Dude i hear myself speaking when i read ur comment.

      The big change of my life is that i have started to seeing myself as a man that needs to provide a man that my daughtwr counts on. A man that needs to bring the money and take care emotionally, sexually and spiritually.

      There is no time for pity. No time for regret.. no time for sorrow. I told myself to pick up my lazy ass and start working.. dont even complain and be a beast. Fck it.

      When i feel the insecurity creeping in i just go to this site for a quick boost. And i feel confident again. I can cry and keep telling myself im a little pussy because of my past but fck that!

      Since that moment… everything changed. I didnt tell my wife what im doing/committing to. But i hear this everyday: what happened to you? Why are you so confident? I like your sexy manliness. AND SHE DOESNT KNOW BUT SHE FEELS IT.

      Its in the little things.. like today she asked what i wanted to eat..(mostly im an indicisive btch) but this time i just quickly said KFC and immediatly said fck it ill be righr back and just straight up left and came back with kfc.. she loved it.. the leaderness the manliness the “fck it mentality but im still sweet”.

      Dude really… try it.. and really do ur best..

      If u cant do 100 pushup.. do it while knees bent. Fck her shit tests do shit you are afraid of she might not like.

      But for fcks sake take back ur manliness


    • sceej,

      Accept where you’re at. You’re the ‘Before’ guy in a Charles Atlas at. That’s fine.

      Pick ONE thing. Just one. It can be small. Doesn’t matter.

      Now look at what Hunter wrote. Whatever it costs, do that one thing. I don’t care if it’s 10 push-ups every day. Do it. Screw the rest.

      As you get consistency and success, find another one thing.

      You will find that as you do this, the change will begin inside. You will begin to look for that next thing. And if one of those next things fails, you’re still doing the thing before. Get up, try again, do it. Once it’s done, decide whether to keep it or not.

      There will be an inflection point. All it takes is this: Do. Not. Stop.


      • Excellent point.

        A prescription to build the irrational self-confidence which is the elixir of masculinity.

        Through action you build confidence.

        Choose to act.


  3. I have kept with the program. I will see it through. My biggest problem continues to be lack of focus and goals. Men of March has filled me with renewed energy. I’m more productive now but I also find myself pacing around full of restless energy. I have a difficult time quieting my mind to set goals and think of solutions. This also makes it difficult to focus on a book. I can manage is page or two but then my mind wonders and I’ll completely forget what I just read. I feel I can accomplish a lot if I can only focus this restless energy and quiet my mind. Any thoughts?


    • Total immersion in the now.

      It takes a significant amount of energy to dial the mind into the feel of the couch, a breeze, the sound of you girl’s voice, the feel of a book’s pages, the smell…

      Dial the mind in to the now.

      Realize that you’ll achieve those grand goals, but on the way their, you’ve got to chill and immerse in the now.

      Be more ‘dog-like’.

      They don’t stress of the future or hold grudges over the past, they’re just in the now.


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  5. Today was my hardest challenge yet. I don’t ask for help. It took me almost all day to complete this challenge. It makes me feel weak to ask for help, I was going to talk to a coworker for help on fixing my credit. I couldn’t do it.Then I had a light bulb moment, that’s probably why my credit is all fucked up.(I would have to ask for help because I don’t know how to fix it.). Pushups I can do… Work two labor intensive jobs, I can do…
    It was my girl that I collaborated with at 9:00 pm Alaska time. lol I thought I was going to fail today.
    She has been really supportive and loves the fact that I can’t jerk off because all my sexual energy is directed towards her. She is wearing lingerie again. Yes, she knows that’s not why I’m doing this.
    I’m surprised how today ended. Just proves that you can’t give up. I will never quit on my self again.
    This is Sparta


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  7. I appreciate you putting on this challenge. Came at the perfect time. Surprising conclusion: doing 100 pushups is tough but much easier than avoiding fap-pulls.

    @sceej, this is the family alpha, not the family beta. Perhaps you are addicted to the drama of trying to succeed rather than succeeding. Perhaps uou want to be the dude broadcasting his pain, not the dude moving past it — kind of this this:


  8. Constant course correction these past two years. I’m a part of a large community of men embracing their Dominant nature. This is not Red Pill. A bit different but in many ways very much congruent with The Family Alpha.

    It’s been a 2 year improvement program. My girl is back to being my girl again. Yes her hamster still spins up all the time. But I’m keeping my frame way more often. I tell her no all the time now. I used to be afraid of conflict with her especially. She seems to crave being told no.

    When she’s not acting like the submissive I expect, I’m now looking in the mirror to see what course correction I need to make. I no longer blame her and accept responsibility for how my entire family acts and responds.

    If you’ve ever steered a boat in turbulent waters, you’ll remember that it’s a lot of minute course corrections. Doesn’t take too long to get back on point. If you slack and let it go for too long a time, the correction takes longer and is harder to overcome.

    Lean on your brothers and be honest with yourself. If you can’t do this for 30 days, that’s okay with me. The world needs good worker bees. I choose to fuck the queen. I am her king.


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