Yesterday’s Recap: Each day I’ll do a brief recap from the day before. Day #13 put your mortality under the microscope, forcing you to face the fact that your life is like a string winding from a spool and you have no idea when the thread is going to run out.
There is beauty in that.
We all need to live like we’re going to die, because we are…
Reminder: The rules of Men of March:
- You will not masturbate, edge, or touch your dick for pleasure during the entire month. You can have sex, but not with yourself.
- You will not watch porn, sexy gifs, look at provocative photos or anything of the sort as this will lead to you breaking rule one.
- You will do 100 push-ups every day. Don’t give the ‘time’ excuse, or any excuse as I don’t give a fuck, just do them. Break it up however you have to, but before you sleep at night, 100 must be done; chest day or not.
- You must start reading a book. Even if it’s just a few pages a day at first you must be reading a book. I will be reading New World Ronin by Victor Pride this month. You don’t have to finish the book in the month, just actively read a few pages every day to build the habit. With that said, my goal is to finish the book this month.
- You have to start giving genuine answers to people. If someone asks if you’re busy, don’t say “No” when you are. You have to stop avoiding conflict at the expense of your true self. If your wife asks a question, give an answer, “I don’t know/care” is not an answer a leader gives to his crew. Start knowing, start caring, and start telling the world your true opinion.
- If you have a vice, remove it. You have to be honest with yourself; if you’re overweight and drinking to numb or are smoking pot and being unproductive, that shit has to go. This isn’t a ‘dry’ challenge, if alcohol or pot isn’t a problem good to go. If it’s more than that, leave it be for the month.
- Every day there will be a challenge, you must complete it.
Day #14: The View
There’s no shortcut to any place worth going.
This quote is inscribed on the base of a globe I have in my office. It was a gift given to me after I had obtained my Bachelor’s degree.
I’d set the goal of getting my degree before I left the military and I started it when I was assigned to Instructor Duty which meant I wouldn’t be in and out on the ship every other week.
It gave me three years to go from zero credits to graduation.
I had to do that while working the military’s ridiculous work schedule, running a family which at the time was my three year old son and newborn daughter, and I’d just discovered this site called Reddit and I realized I had a knack for writing.
The mountain was high, but I climbed it and reached my goal.
When I was given the globe by my uncle, he told me he knew how much I was juggling and that I was nothing special for accomplishing it as that’s what men do. He said he was proud and that when you set a high standard, pulling feats like this off are no longer impressive, people are used to it.
This is the mindset you must place upon yourself.
Nobody cares about how much effort you had to put into the completion of your goal, they only care about the results, goal attainment.
- 100 Push-Ups
- Negative Visualizations to keep your appreciation of life in check.
- Stand tall and soak in the view that’s provided by how far you’ve come and take a quick assessment of any adjustments required to get you to where you’re going.
From day #1 to today, the end of week #2 you have come so far. Just like the end of last week, I want you to take an inventory and assessment of where you’re at.
- What do you need to improve upon?
- Where can you open up time, either by removing a time vampire or making other actions more efficient?
- Are you confused as to where to go from here?
Let yourself enjoy the view of what you’ve accomplished, give yourself a slap on the back and recognize, while those around you improve, they don’t care about each grueling step it’s taken for you to get to this point, and that’s ok.
You aren’t doing this for accolades from your family, you’re doing this for the masculine self inside.
We’re finishing up week #2, you’re halfway up this mountain.
Wrapping up Day #14
Don’t get so caught up in the grind of performance that you’re only looking at your feet as you walk this masculine path. Stand tall, face the world you’re marching into, and every now and then you’ve got to stop marching forward, and look to your left and right, soak in the views that have only been seen by those who’ve taken on the challenge of reclaiming their masculine self.
The pride you feel and growth you’ve experienced soak it in.
There’s no shortcut to where we’re going and this is what separates those who need it from those who’d like it.
If you’d just like to become a masculine man, you’re going to quit, the path is just too difficult.
But those who need this, the men who have gone all in, burned their ships on the shore, and are choosing to live a genuine life, never going back to trying to be the guy they thought people would like…
Those men are choosing death before quitting.
They’ll die on this path rather than live a life of conformist behavior, trying to fit in and not make waves.
Today is the end of week #2, you’ve made it half way.
Relax, review your schedule and performance up to this point, and then get ready to march forward as we aren’t there yet.
We’ve still got some work to do brothers.
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