Yesterday’s Recap: Day #29 required you to face a different type of obstacle; being able to relay what you felt in your heart and mind to another.
Sharing your vision is not an easy task, it requires you to take your emotions and something you’re heavily ego invested in and expose it to the world.
As leaders of families, we need to be able to do exactly that.
Nothing about Men of March is orthodox; I’m not telling you to build your team up through positive reinforcement, I’m telling you to share the path you are leading them down in a manner which calls them to arms and gets them to join your campaign towards greater living.
This is theoretical bullshit, this is raw conversation that lets your wife and children know that things are never going back to the way they were before.
The old you is dead, never to return and you need to let them know how they can live an authentic life by your side.
There is no other way to live.
Genuine or death.
Reminder: The rules of Men of March:
- You will not masturbate, edge, or touch your dick for pleasure during the entire month. You can have sex, but not with yourself.
- You will not watch porn, sexy gifs, look at provocative photos or anything of the sort as this will lead to you breaking rule one.
- You will do 100 push-ups every day. Don’t give the ‘time’ excuse, or any excuse as I don’t give a fuck, just do them. Break it up however you have to, but before you sleep at night, 100 must be done; chest day or not.
- You must start reading a book. Even if it’s just a few pages a day at first you must be reading a book. I will be reading New World Roninby Victor Pride this month. You don’t have to finish the book in the month, just actively read a few pages every day to build the habit. With that said, my goal is to finish the book this month.
- You have to start giving genuine answers to people. If someone asks if you’re busy, don’t say “No” when you are. You have to stop avoiding conflict at the expense of your true self. If your wife asks a question, give an answer, “I don’t know/care” is not an answer a leader gives to his crew. Start knowing, start caring, and start telling the world your true opinion.
- If you have a vice, remove it. You have to be honest with yourself; if you’re overweight and drinking to numb or are smoking pot and being unproductive, that shit has to go. This isn’t a ‘dry’ challenge, if alcohol or pot isn’t a problem good to go. If it’s more than that, leave it be for the month.
- Every day there will be a challenge, you must complete it.
Day #30: Finding Comfort in the Discomfort
We’re almost done with the men of March. You’ve likely been more sore, tired, motivated, sad, energized, and sexually frustrated yet equally sexually satisfied in this last month than you have been in the past x many years of your life.
Brothers, you’ve had a taste of life; you’ve learned to actually feel again.
Here is where the cold water comes, nobody cares.
Nobody is going to recognize the sleep you’ve lost, pain you feel, sacrifice you’ve made, or progress you’ve shown.
Nobody is going to go as far as you are and everyone is going to lack appreciation for how much it took to get to where you are – except your fellow masculine brothers…and that’s ok.
You haven’t done any of this for props from others. All of it has been done by you, for you.
Only masculine men are capable of smiling in the pain. It’s why you’ll see our military laughing while covered in mud and suffering from severe sleep deprivation. It’s why in the movie 300 they laugh while arrows are raining from above, “Fight in the shade“. It’s the reason that even when you come home dog tired, you’re able to go outside and play with the kids and read them books before bed; masculine men thrive on the challenge and are capable of finding comfort in the discomfort.
This isn’t just physical discomfort, it’s also emotional and situational.
Having the difficult conversations with the ones you love which, while it may be hard to do, is necessary and therefore is something you have to do.
Telling a friend that they are no longer walking the same path as you and that you no longer want them to be a part of your life is uncomfortable, but it’s something the masculine man knows he has to do.
Telling your boss that you are no longer going to say “Yes” every time he asks you to stay past your working hours may not be the easiest thing to do, but again, the masculine man can handle the discomfort of these situations.
Men of March is going to end and you’re going to have to set your own goals and pursue them.
It isn’t easy when you’re removed from ‘The Brotherhood‘; trust me, leaving the military after 8 years was uncomfortable, but it was something I knew I had to do.
I did it and I found comfort in the discomfort of knowing I was choosing the right path over the easy one.
I no longer had the eyes of my brethren keeping me on the straight and narrow, now I had to ‘self-generate’ the discipline to exercise, train, and keep myself in fighting shape both physically and mentally.
This is where you show the world that you are not just a Man of March, but also a masculine man and you’re here to stay and act as a beacon to all others who may need an example to allow them to show their authentic self.
- 300 Push-Ups (You knew it was coming)
- Review the goals you set on Day #1, find a way to complete them in the next two days, whatever it takes.
- Draw a clear line with whomever it is that has been probing you for weakness. Take a stand for what it is you believe in and make it clear that from here on out, you’re able to have those direct uncomfortable confrontations. You are no longer conflict averse, if someone has been walking over you, compromising your authority, or directly challenging you draw the line in the sand and defend it. You’re here to stay, before you end Men of March crush any doubt of relapse through direct confrontation.
Wrapping up Day #30
Nobody but your dog, beer, and brethren will ever understand you or appreciate completely how much effort you’ve put into becoming the man you have become.
Find comfort in the discomfort of being a masculine man in a weak society.
I should have put a disclaimer at the beginning of this series and I will with the e-book, but once you see the truth of it all, you can never go back.
You’ll never fit in with 95% of the people you interact with. You can enjoy them and you can laugh while creating memories, but you’ll see through their facade.
It is only when you are in the presence of a fellow masculine man that you’ll be able to discuss ‘real’ shit and touch on the subjects most are too scared to even whisper.
This is why the internet plays such a crucial role. The Manosphere blogs, Twitter, Reddit, etc. all of the ‘internet Locker-Rooms’ allow men to come together to have those talks.
I advise that if you have something to ask or it’s worth saying, to create your own masculine corner in the web and have the discussion with your brethren.
You’re a changed man; you see the strings and you have experienced the joy which was beaten out of you as a boy. You know what life is about and the heights that most are missing, there’s no coming back from that.
You’ll always know what it feels like to allow your body to breathe, your mind to breath, and you soul to breath and there’s no going back, ever.
You are a part of the brotherhood, an original member of the Men of March, you should never even consider going back to who you were, you’re greater than that now.
Like a rising tide you’re going to lift the ‘boats'(lives) of all those around you.