I have a job which is laid back, allows me to have a sweet beard, I coach my son’s baseball team which I love, run this blog with Craig, and life couldn’t be better with both my wife and kids.
So Why Start a Fraternity and Podcast?
This question is one which I’ve asked myself a thousand times. The time that has to be dedicated to not only building the foundations, programs, and maintaining things to operate smoothly isn’t something I have in surplus. My time is already streamlined.
Then there’s the $$$ required to purchase software, update as we grow, get logos and applications developed is also not something which is just laying around.
Of course the question ‘Why am I doing this?‘ arises
To which the only response is, because I have to.
There is an itch in my soul which can only be scratched by tackling this challenge.
This blog doesn’t scratch that itch.
I know I have more to give.
My family doesn’t scratch that itch, growing the beard, writing, and cruising in the Jeep is great, but it doesn’t scratch that itch.
When you hear men talk of how they had to answer the call it always seems like some cheesy line from a war movie. Yet when you live it and feel it, there’s no better description. I have to speak on the subject, I have to connect with the men who are going to go out and set the example of what authentic looks like in their community, I have more to give, so I’m going to give it.
I have to answer the call of those men who are lost, I cannot expect more from my fellow man than I’m willing to give myself.
I served my country and now I serve my fellow man.
Leading my family as well as working to improve my society and nation is my mission. There is nobody else on this planet whom I would trust to do a better job than myself. There is nobody who I believe will try as hard or live as authentically as myself as well.
That’s Enough About Me
How do you scratch that itch in your soul? How do you align who you are with what you do? How do you find your mission in life?
I shared my personal experience above to act as a conversation starter in your head.
Now you see the inner workings of my mind, you see that you aren’t alone with that sense of something missing and a desire to do more. You also see that pursuit of mission can come at the expense of your comfortable life.
Rarely does pursuit of your mission make your life easier.
You may think you want to be a video game designer, you may have watched all of the YouTube videos, read all of the books, and spoken with hundreds of designers on Reddit but until you take action inside the field of your mission, you know nothing.
You can read a hundreds books on throwing a fastball and watch the YouTube videos but again, until you step on a mound and throw that ball, you’ve made zero progress.
Don’t spend your life reading and telling yourself that you’d be good at something.
Instead, immerse in it and at some point you’ll either quit because it isn’t what you thought it would be or you’ll keep getting back up and try again and again, improving each time.
It’s at this point that a little objective self-assessment is required.
You may want your mission to be x, y, or z but if you haven’t taken a single step towards actually doing those things then you’re just a dude who wants to LARP about these things – Acta, Non Verba.
You may be terrible at what you view your mission to be. If that’s the case, I’d shift gears towards something which you’re both confident as well as competent doing.
I feel that a part of my mission as a man is to help my fellow men. If I could make great YouTube videos, but I couldn’t write for shit then TFA would be a VLOG and not a blog.
I can write and I enjoy it, so this is my medium of choice. It is no fluke nor is this due to chance. Craig and I have designed our programs off what we know works. It’s why we pay for advanced software when it comes to video programs and our chat, those are what breaks the electronic barrier so that is where we are focused.
When it came to creating our programs we practiced, wrote, and we took feedback from the men who were reading and listening.
Be humble when you pursue your mission and work to perfect your craft.
In every essay written I am trying something new, even now I’m working to create better flow, to paint a clearer picture.
How can you do that?
How can you take what it is you love and make it something you actually do? Instead of thinking you’re great at writing, recording, rapping, or acting go out and actually doing those things.
It’s the only way you’ll scratch the itch, it’s the only way to find your true calling in life.
You have to stop passively watching others find themselves while you are forced to keep up with the facade of who you believe you are and who you want others to believe you are.
If you have no idea what it is you care about as you’ve become entirely apathetic to everything life has to offer, then I suggest you check out The Fraternity of Excellence as it is designed to help you rediscover who you are as a man, with your fellow men. In there you’ll develop that sense of authentic living, while building a tribe. We pursue each day with genuine desire as opposed to the conformist programming society has instilled which leads to an apathetic life of death.
Closing Bullet Points
- Find out what it is that you care about. What keeps you up at night, what stirs a fire in your heart, what can get you talking for hours on end?
- How do you align what you’re doing with that part of who you are?
- Enter the arena; start doing and after a few months, objectively assess whether it’s what you thought it would be and if you’re as good as you thought you would be.
- Continue and improve or move to the next thing that you give a shit about. The process from step 3 should help you improve the next go-round.
- Do not forget that this is not about saving the world or helping others; your mission is solely for you. If it benefits others, great; but this is entirely about you scratching that itch.
Acta Non Verba,
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