Don’t Be A Predictable (Boring) Man
“You’re so predictable.†This phrase is a death sentence in marriage. A man who is living life according to his terms is a man whose wife cannot predict his every action. She may be able to predict that he will take the path of an authentic individual, overcoming obstacles rather than skirting them but she does not feel […]
Continue reading...Dads & Daughters
I am a fortunate man in the sense that I have both a masculine son and a feminine daughter. After I wrote Fathers and Sons, where I discussed how, “Your son is going to follow the example you set, not the advice you provide.” I decided to write a piece dealing with how to raise a daughter […]
Continue reading...Fathers Raising Sons
I left active duty after a successful 8 year career not because I didn’t like the military, but rather because I knew I’d rather be a quality and present father than a stellar sailor. Collecting a pension at 39 sounded like a solid plan and originally it was. But after my son was born and then […]
Continue reading...Remove the TV
The television in your home is a portal for outside thoughts and influences to enter your inner “safe space“. I want to push back against the “norm” of having the TV be the leading source of information and entertainment in you and your family’s life. The world can be a dark place; there’s no reason […]
Continue reading...Some husbands deserve sex more than others.
The amount of posts on the internet from men who are saying, “We haven’t had sex in months†is too damn high! This is especially irritating for one specific reason. To the men in dead bedrooms, I’m not sure if you’re all aware of this, but women want to have sex too I’ll let that […]
Continue reading...The Complexity of Marriage is Simple
When you fail to lead, your girl is caught in purgatory; stay knowing your potential or leave for a chance at better Marriage is like most things in the world, it’s supposed to be simple yet it is very complicated. Fixing a marriage seems very difficult, yet it’s quite simple. The problem with these preconceived […]
Continue reading...Is it starting to make sense?
First, recognize why it is you went along this line of searching online. Were you looking to bring life into a deadbedroom? Were you struggling to find a group of men to associate yourself with since you have no masculine friends? Or did you get burned in a relationship where you, “never saw it coming?“ […]
Continue reading...Thanksgiving 2015
This Thanksgiving, be thankful you’re a man. Be thankful that for whatever reason you have decided to reclaim (or maintain) your masculinity. Be thankful that you have the tools and resources to no longer get caught up living the life society wants you to live and instead decided to live it on your own terms. […]
Continue reading...Action, Not Vows is What Your Marriage Needs
I had a discussion with a man who said, “When she pledges till death do us part, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer in front of her’s and your parents and grandparents who all fulfilled that vow to the end, it is reasonable to expect it to be true.†This stuck with […]
Continue reading...2015 Book List
‘Total Recall’ – Arnold ‘The Way of the Superior Man’ – David Deida ‘Game of Thrones’ – George R. R. Martin ‘A Clash of Kings’ – George R. R. Martin ‘Matterhorn’ – Karl Marlantes ‘Liberal Democracy’ – Unk ‘The Power of Now’ Eckhart Tolle ‘Guide to the Good Life’ – William Irvine ‘Gates of Fire’ […]
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