Intentional Discomfort

Keeping passion, desire, joy, and productivity in a marriage is difficult; it’s even harder to do in life.

The problem is that the things you do arent new and because they arent new they lose that initial feeling of wow. Ive written about this in Remain UNpredictable as routine kills marriages.

I’ve also written about the need to have a mission in life.

Keeping a woman interested seems easy compared to keeping yourself hungry to get after it week after week which for many seems like a loop from Groundhog Day.

 

I have multiple posts on how to keep your woman on her toes and ways to keep that fire & attraction alive. Yet, I havent written about the necessity of doing this for the rest of the stuff in your life and that is what the aim of this piece is today.

Appreciate the comforts in your life, by removing them.

 

I was born in 1987

I am in the fortunate group of people who appreciate the outdoors (I used to be kicked out of the house until the street lights were on) yet I also experienced Nintendo, PS1, PS2, PS3, XBOX 360, XBOX ONE, PS4, Return of Ninetendo, Smartphones going from bricks to sticks of gum, etc.

I learned about remaining active, I did not having any fat friends (obesity wasnt even a thing) and I was exposed to technology so that I can navigate all gaming systems and smart phones. I mentally live in both the old and new world and it has benefited me immensely.

One of the problems with this is that I am further and further removed from the time when I didnt have these luxuries. Long gone are the days where Id have to wait to use a phone or not have hot water.

 

The constant comforts weve been afforded have made us weak and unappreciative, these are not masculine traits and therefore need to be identified and eradicated.

If you want to get back to enjoying the process and not just reaching the end, you need to remove some comforts from your life.

 

• When is the last time you took a cold shower?
• When is the last time you slept on the ground or a hard surface?
• When is the last time you went a day without the internet or a phone?
• When is the last time you made a fire to cook your food?

A lot of guys will watch shows like Man v. Wild or Naked & Afraid and say, “I could do that” yet these guys have never gone a 24 hour period without shoving something into their mouth.

How do you know you are prepared to face the elements if you never expose yourself to those elements?

You can’t claim to be a survivalist when you get light headed if you haven’t eaten in 5 hours.

Learn to appreciate what youve got and the beauty of the little things by taking them away.

The easiest way to do this is to go camping.

Leave the phone behind, the electronic games behind, running water behind, the memory foam all of it.

Grab a thin blanket, a tent, a water filter, and maybe something to throw on a fire or a pan to boil water. then go out for at least 3 days.

Youll learn more about yourself in those three days than you would reading 50 books on being a survivalist.

Remove the comforts and then you’ll appreciate the comforts.

If you dont want to go camping try any of these:

Only take cold showers Monday-Friday: Saturday that warm shower will have never felt so good.

Go 3 days without sex or any type of release: The first time you have sex you may not last long before blowing that 3 day build up, but it will feel amazing and have you appreciating the art of sex even more.

Leave your phone behind: People lose their shit over this one. They say, what if theres an emergency? So what, you find out later? I have a wife and two kids, I love them to death, but when I go camping, theres no phone and Im gone 3-5 days. You dont have to leave the phone behind for that long, but go to work without it or when you get home throw it in your closet, shut the door, and go about the rest of your day.

Leave the internet behind: Ever go a week without getting online? Didnt think so. A week is like 2 internet months. So much can happen and change, so be it. Your life isnt about being up to date 24/7, its about actually living.

Leave TV/HULU/HBO/Netflix/VideoGames/Etc behind: If you are in the routine of go to work – come home – watch TV – eat – watch TV – sleep then now is a pretty good time to get your head out of your ass. Years of your life are going to pass you by and you arent going to have a thing to show for it. Remove the television and then enjoy the time youve created for other endeavors. Then, when you want to watch a TV show or a movie with your lady or alone, youll appreciate having the means to do so. TV should be viewed as a privilege that is earned through completing work, not something that is expected or a part of your daily routine.

 

These are but a few, I realized I could go on a pretty much limitless tangent, but the principle is there; remove the shit you are fond of so you actually enjoy it and dont just take it for granted, removing the thrill and appreciation you once had.

By doing so youll exercise your self-discipline, have confidence that you can handle uncomfortable situations, and most importantly youll no longer take things for granted but appreciate the value of each little thing you have in your life.

Take Action and Take Care,

 

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