Mentouring – A 21 Convention Review
First I have to give credit where credit is due, my wife came up with the term mentouring.
While I wouldn’t say that the speakers themselves are “touring” to provide their speeches, the event itself is literally touring the globe and speakers are coming from across the nation.
The 21 Convention is an international convention and one that is continuing to grow, especially after having incorporated The Red Pill community.
I haven’t written a post in a few weeks as I’ve been working on my thesis (submitted & graded, I’m now 100% done with my Master’s) as well as preparing for the convention.
Leaving the family is never fun, but our families are not our mission as men and there are times where we must separate what we want to do from what we have to do.
I had to attend this; writing, speaking, and helping other men learn how to better help themselves is my mission in life and there are times where it conflicts with my responsibilities as a husband and father.
This is the burden men have, this is the cross we bear.
Attending this event was going to change my life, I knew this going into it. I also knew that by attending this event I was going to miss two of my son’s baseball games, a team which I am the head coach of.
Missing those games sucked, fortunately for me I have a stellar wife who recorded videos and kept me up to date with what was going on (they won both).
My wife made the distance seem a little smaller and I greatly appreciated her doing that for me. Our wives should make our lives easier and be complementary to our mission, mine is the feminine balance I need to do what I do.
I interacted with every speaker, but the ones I am going to list here are the ones that made an impact:
Rian Stone: I think the first thing he said to me was, “Hey faggot” from there everything was exactly as you’d expect from two sailors. I was with this guy every day before he had to take off early and he was quite literally the reason my speech did so well. He went on stage before me and I built upon the foundation he created.
Rian is a solid dude who was exactly what I expected.
Rian is the kind of guy that if he showed up at my house today, we’d be right back at it.
Similar to my approach, he made himself available to everyone the entire time and one who showed exactly why he was invited to speak.
Ivan Throne: Ivan and I spent each day together discussing family, business, the future, the present, and the past. I became instant friends with him as well as his dog, which I’ve come to calling SwoopDogg as this canine got more chicks flocking to him in one night than the entirety of the whole convention all week, including Goldmund and Christian McQueen.
Ivan is the real deal, he’s passionate about what he believes in and his presentation was one which struck a chord with the men attending. He pulled no punches and drove the point home that as men, it is our duty to act and if you choose the path of passive existence, you need to get the fuck out of the way.
I do not believe this was the last time I’ll be seeing him in person.
Rollo Tomassi: This guy is the OG of TRP & in my mind the Manosphere in general, he’s quite funny and in all honesty was one of the leading forces behind the shift in the 21 Convention’s direction.
He is 100% responsible for my invite.
Rollo made himself completely accessible to the attendees and I think he took the brunt of the questions, stories, and overall swarm of discussion. Again, this is not an easy tasking nor was it required of him to do so.
I wanted to talk to him as much as everyone else, but this was about them, not us and Rollo was a champ about it the entire time.
We’ve all read the posts, but to hear him speak on the subjects of masculinity, hypergamy, etc. it brings new life to those old words and really drove the point even deeper in your mind.
Rollo has a post for everything and I half expected him to pass out papers of essays instead of answering questions, but night after night he was there with a line of men trying to get a hold of this Red Pill rock-star. He’s is a standup guy who lives the message he writes.
Tanner Guzy: Tanner is a guy who I’ve messaged behind closed doors to let know that I appreciated his writing and while we don’t really interact that much on the web, I’m a huge fan of everything he has going on.
When we met in person, it was an immediate familiarity. He came right in, shook hands, said hello, and we just kicked it off. His wife was there as his photographer and she was incredibly nice as well. I spoke with both of them at a house party about my kids, their kids, online business, etc.
Tanner and his wife are quality people and I believe they’re exactly what this world needs more of. My blog and future products are going to be of higher quality directly because of the conversations we shared.
Goldmund Unleashed: Goldmund is the real deal. There is no conformist, fake, or ‘showman’ in him. He is who he is and does what he does.
He is the most immediately connected man I met at the event, quite literally he just popped up behind Rian and I with his coffee and it was all smiles and joking from there.
I’m not even sure we formally met, we just started talking and having a great time.
That laid back attitude can be misinterpreted as going with the flow, which if you heard his speech that is not the case at all. He created a solid layout for these men to help them start looking inside themselves to find out who it is they truly are and where it is they want to go.
He gives a shit and took time to speak with each man who wanted a book, to check out his Masculine Accessories (I got some swag and my T levels jumped by 50).
He also helped each man who presented their individual insecurities with talking to women; that isn’t easy when you’ve got 20+ men asking you for a tailored program, but Goldmund hung in there and answered them all.
Christian McQueen: Christian was the person my wife was worried about as he is ‘The Playboy‘ and seeing the dude live, it’s no joke. He is intense when it comes to business, professional when it comes to dealing with those asking questions, and a blast to be around. I had a few conversations with the man, he’s a stand up dude who I’d want in my corner any day.
It wasn’t all girls either. We talked masculinity, business, family, etc. Most try to pigeonhole him into this one caricature when in fact he is much more and I think that bothers people.
He knows his shit and for me, as a married man with kids in a totally different stage in life, I still connected with the message as authenticity and masculinity are universally understood and respected.
Socrates: This fucking dude. I didn’t get much time with him at all as people always jumped in, but god dammit if I didn’t feel like I knew the guy forever. During our ‘post event‘ interview with Rollo, I was so fucking exhausted that one glass of Crown I drank during the interview blacked me out. I don’t remember shit from the interview except laughing my ass off with Socrates.
I later found out that I went to eat with Soc and ended up passing the fuck out at the table. Don’t mix booze with lack of sleep.
If that interview comes to light, I expect you’ll be laughing as hard as we were.
Anthony Johnson: I saved the best for last. This is the dude who made it happen and the final ‘Yes‘ to get me to this event. We didn’t get to interact much as he was handling everything for the event, but he believes in what it is he says and the mission/challenge he has taken on. Just wait until you hear his final speech, motivating as hell.
My wife asked me, “Why did you stay for every speech and always go down to the bar or out with the guys when you could grab some needed sleep?”
The answer was simple.
I wanted to provide every opportunity I could for the men attending to see another man living his passion, embodying his message, and finding comfort in the discomfort.
I wasn’t sleeping well while in Florida, maybe 2-4 hours a night. But, how could I tell these men to push past their comfort zone if I was making sure I squeezed in naps?
Few, if any speaker stayed for the entirety of the event.
I did, not because I really cared about what everyone was putting out, but rather because I knew that during each break these men would be asking me questions about the subject being discussed and if I wasn’t listening, I’d have no clue what they were talking about.
I, along with every other speaker was swarmed during each break, each dinner, event, outing, etc.
It was mentally taxing.
I wasn’t truly prepared for the relentless questions, stories, etc. On top of that, I gave my first live presentation and first speech in front of a crowd ever. I was nervous and to receive a standing ovation after the fact was surreal.
It was a little overwhelming at first but I did my best to keep up and ensure I was saying what I meant and giving everyone their own time and attention.
The men who dedicated their time and money to gaining access to those who were sending out a message of masculine reclamation deserved everything we had to offer, and each of us gave it.
I hung out in downtown Orlando with these men until 0400, then attended conferences from 0900 to 1900 then went out again until 0300 walking the streets with Jack Donovan and Ivan Throne which is something that I, as well as the other men will remember for quite some time.
This event was a game changer & 2018 is going to be even better.
Anthony Johnson has created the next step for the ‘Manosphere’ and the fight to reclaim masculinity in men’s lives and preserve it in our society.
Similar to what Craig James and I are doing at The Fraternity of Excellence, Anthony is working to remove the medium, bringing men together, and producing content at a rate which is impressively aggressive.
Return & What’s Next?
For the speakers, I hope this event acts as fuel for future growth and desire to help get content out for those men who continue to struggle, plugged-in to a society who hates their authentic nature.
For the attendees, I hope the words were received and a plan is being formulated to put them into action.
Remember, Acta, Non Verba – Deeds, Not Words.
You spent valuable time and money to attend the event, make it count towards something. You need to make those words received become fuel for tangible improvements in your life. You attended The 21 Convention for a reason, now face that reason head on and make sure you come out on top.
Living an authentically masculine life sets an example which breaks the bonds for your brethren. Your example will allow them to break the conformist ranks, so take action and embody your message.
For myself, I’ve seen these men face to face. I’ve shaken their hands, heard their stories, and witnessed how real this all is. I hope to create products and write pieces which act as a catalyst for sustained superior performance.
I’m not worried about the next two weeks as these men are riding a high, I’m worried about two months from now when the desire of comfort comes creeping in. When it does, my writing will be there to catch any man who begins to fall back into the hole from which they came.
All of the speakers threw a rope to those who needed help to climb out of that hole. Now you must climb, and when you reach the top, you must ask yourself, do you march forward living the rest of your life in a genuine manner, or do you choose to stick around and throw a rope to the next man.
Either way you’re right, but those who choose to throw a rope, I look forward to seeing the resources and content you provide.
Acta Non Verba,
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