Remove the TV
Do you want to contribute to the childhood obesity epidemic our nation is facing?
Have you seen the advertisements targeting our children?
Have you paid attention to the message of ads, shows, and movies?
Have you witnessed what the TV Father has become?
I recently took a final for my master’s degree which was a research topic of my choice. The topic I selected was about the role television, smartphones, and tablets had on a child’s BMI, weight, and the number of active minutes throughout the day.
Do you realize that you’re conditioning your child’s relationship with screens from birth? Parents are plugging their kids in front of screens and giving them tablets out of the womb, creating a generation of Tablet Toddlers (credit to Kyle Trouble). The placenta is still warm and the kid has figured out how to get to sesame street and angry birds.
Kids are fat, they are getting even fatter; screen time and processed foods are to blame, along with terrible parenting practices.
If I were to cite all of the studies which support my argument it would look like I copied an entire Britannica encyclopedia set and pasted it. There are hundreds, this isn’t just some theory, screens are making kids sedentary slugs. The longer children sit glued in front of televisions and other forms of entertainment the higher their chances of being overweight throughout their life becomes. Studies have been conducted that have directly connected television viewing and sedentary behavior to increased weight and a higher BMI.
With removing and/or limiting the amount of time a child has with sedentary activities (screen time) you will see decrease in BMI and overall weight. The longer it takes you to implement change, the more difficult it will be.
What to do about TV?
I recommend setting hard boundaries in the same fashion you do with your wife. Draw the line at whatever your point is and enforce it when challenged.
My kids do not have a video game system. We have a PS3, but use it infrequently, usually to watch a family movie.
They had a Disney Infinity console but my son started asking if he could play it instead of playing outside. Needless to say that was off the shelf and in the basement quickly. My wife thought that it was an asshole move initially, but my kids didn’t really care and I didn’t care as this was a boundary that had to be enforced. I do what is best, even if they don’t know it’s best for them.
I will only allow my kids TV if it is dark out and we decide to watch a movie as a family, if it is raining and they’ve already done their writing, and if the Patriots are playing.
I read to my kids nightly, I play outside with them, I will sit and write with them or if they are painting I will read in the same room as them.
B) So they paint the paper and not each other.
I’ve gotten them to where they don’t expect or rely on TV as a part of their normal routine. With all this work I still have to battle ‘screen time’. When I visit my In-Laws or my own parents it’s like they have dementia and I have to go through the motions of reminding them I do not want the kids on electronics. We visit to see family, not watch YouTube.
Every time one of the grandmothers will give the kids the damn tablet or their phone. I was tearing apart my FIL’s bathroom with him and when I came down to get water and my wife was talking to her mom while my daughter was on a tablet and my son was on my MiL’s phone; it’s infuriating.
Gentlemen, if you have family members who ‘think’ they’re being nice by giving the kids what they ask for, you can do one of two things.
Ignore it or Don’t Ignore it.
My approach is the don’t ignore it.
I will tell my kids to wrap up what they are doing and then tell whoever gave it to them that when they are done that the phone, tablets, television are to be put away. I do not rip the shit out of my kids hands because they aren’t to blame. They are kids, of course they will exploit that, I expect it.
Just like All Women Are Like That (AWALT) so to All Kids Are Like That (AKALT) is true too. Enforce your boundaries and keep your kids away from ‘screens’ for too long.
Do you know how many advertisements are created specifically with children in mind?
In the US companies spent over $17 billion in 2009 more than doubling the $$$ from 1992. Companies are spending big bucks and studying child psychology to get inside our kids minds. They want you to select their brand for breakfast, lunch, when you go out to eat, when you go on vacation, what cloths to wear, what games to buy, what gifts are ‘cool’.
Do you ever look at your kid an wonder why they don’t appreciate the stuff they have? Well if so, the answer is that the TV prevents them from appreciating anything.
The next big thing is always being shoved into their little minds. A Big Wheel is no longer good enough, you now need the big wheel with a radio, or this, or that always with something slightly ‘better’. If you want your kid to appreciate what life has to offer, then get them away from the incessant voice of advertisements. Let them get away from the static noise and bright colors, let them get outside or lost in a book. Let them create their own entertainment with G I Joes or dolls. Your kid’s mind is going to be fried if he is told that he needs to go buy something every 4 minutes.
I’ve been reading the Manosphere for a little over a year now. I am still learning and digging deeper.
Whenever I watch a movie or show I am deconstructing the interactions, reading covert body language and the analyzing the sexual and social dynamics between all of the characters. I see my world through a “red lens“.
I always pay attention to the themes and messages that are subtly (sometimes not so subtly) being delivered to the audience. You can’t turn this off, so when I sit down to watch a show or movie with the kids, I always walk away with a what the fuck head shake.
These shows are pushing the female imperative at the lowest level. I watched some Sprout shows that talked about how winning wasn’t everything and that you don’t need to be competitive.
I’ve watched Disney shows where the antagonist is always some man who is an all brawn oaf and the mighty petite princess is his equal then somehow stronger than him and beats him at whatever(fucking Princess Sofia…). The message of ‘boys are bad and do bad things’ is constant. If you think boys aren’t getting the message you underestimate the power of television.
Boys are being taught to repress who they are before they even really know who they are. This message can be delayed via removing TV and it’s impact mitigated if you invest time with your daughter and son and teach them about the differences between boys and girls. The differences are emotional, physical, as well as mental yet parents are raising both kids the exact same.
I’m fair with both kids, but I am harder on my son and a little more strict with my daughter. She rebounds faster than him yet requires a more direct approach. My son takes my criticism and uses it as fuel. It works for them, they are not the same and should not be treated the exact same.
The TV Father
Fathers on television have become the quintessential Beta-Bux, yet women can’t tell you they want the Alpha Fux so it is merely implied without being stated. The fact that the father is an oaf, now that certainly is clearly delivered and expressed multiple times an episode. Homer, Peter, American Dad, the guy from Modern Family, etc.
Since the 1980’s dads have become fucking retarded, useless, space fillers. I get it, a dad doing his job isn’t entertaining and a majority of the audience is women, they are the consumers therefore they get marketed to. But, if your kids are watching this too, then they also see the dumb dads; again, don’t think the message is lost on them.
If you want your kids to know what dads are and what they are supposed to act like, be the living example. Show your kids what fathers are supposed to be like through your actions. TV dads are pathetic, TV ads are psychological warfare, sitting down to watch this crap all day makes you fat and on top of all that, the message of ‘Masculinity is Evil’ is playing trough it all.
Get out with your kids and lead the family, don’t let the TV take your role.
Acta Non Verba,
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