Finish Lines Are A Time For Reflection.

The Finish Line is a checkpoint for review of performance

There’s something to be said about the emotion associated with crossing the finish line.

It’s a time where you’ve accomplished a goal, you’re elated to of achieved this objective; but, this is only one of many goals and it isn’t the “ultimate goal”.

In the game of life, it is improvement and new experiences to the grave, death is the finish line.

Let’s take a step back from that Macro picture and look at the micro.

Look at the many victories which occur throughout our lives. What is the best way to handle them? What is the most optimal way to ensure that as we win, we are able to turn these victories into fuel and understanding which can be used to prevent complacency or “resting on your laurels”.

Similar to making your money make money, you’ve got to make your victories create victories.

How To Make That Happen

Crossing the finish line should be immediately accompanied with reflection on your performance and how you could have done better.

If you get the job you applied and interviewed for, you should look back and think on how you could have negotiated a higher salary, worked in a perk such as company vehicle, more vacation hours, the ability to telework, etc.

If you did well on your midterms/finals you should look at the grade and ask yourself which part did you struggle with; even if you aced the test, which part made you hesitate/take longer than the rest?

Received your varsity letter? Great. How do you make State, All Stars, or get the scholarship to help offset the rising price of college?

Real World Personal Example: I gave a speech which received a standing ovation and helped my fellow men at the 21 Convention. My takeaway from the event? I need to do more arm work and I need to be more comfortable giving presentations in front of crowds.

All of these minor victories in life should lead to the greater development of self.

Each competition you enter (Job hunting, writing, a race, a fight, everything) even if won, should highlight an area which can be developed in your person.

It is only after this period of reflection and deep introspection that you should allow yourself to bask in the glow of victory.

Look at the Floyd McGregor fight.

I’m sure that before he threw his victory party with money and bitches galore, Floyd sat there and went through the entire fight in his head, thinking of where he went wrong and what he would do to prevent that from happening again.

The same goes for you.

Let’s say you fuck a model and wake up to her making you coffee, what could you have done better?

Foreplay, escalation, etc.?

There’s always something to be gained, make sure you’re taking the time to find out where you could improve before patting yourself on the back for how well you did.

Hunter

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The Trident of Masculinity

Authentic masculine expression comes from the harmonization of the three different ‘selves‘ which exist inside each man.

These three selves are the:

  1. Physical Self
  2. Mental Self
  3. Spiritual Self

Like any tripod these legs are all independent of one another yet are entirely dependent on the supporting strength the other two provide.

If you are looking to live the most optimal of lives and achieve the greatest sense of physical strength, mental joy, and spiritual satisfaction, then each of these aspects to who you are as a man must be cultivated and a balance must be struck between them.

Have you seen the gurus who are entirely spiritual, yet would never be able to lift their fellow man if he were to fall as he simply does not have the strength?

What about the brilliant minds who can understand the most complex of formulas yet lack any ability to connect with those around them as they simply cannot tap into the spiritual connection which exists amongst all living things?

Lastly, have you seen the man who sculpts his body to replicate that of a Greek god yet he cannot tell you the last book he read or education he pursued?

These are simple stereotypes which I can find plenty of people who break the caricature, but you get my point. More often than naught, a man is exceptional in only one area or none at all.

So how do you develop these three different aspects of the ‘self’? How do you reach and maintain harmonious levels within your heart, mind, and soul?

You know the answer, it’s always the same.

Hard Work

You don’t just get the life that you want, you’ve got to work for it. Nobody is going to hand you anything, you aren’t just going to become more intelligent, healthier, or happier by willing it.

No, you’re going to have to make yourself uncomfortable and you’re going to have to do the things you’ve been putting off.

This is the entire premise of my book 31 Days to Masculinity. When I wrote that month long program the aim wasn’t to get men laid or help them reveal their six pack.

Instead, I focused on the entirety of the man to help him rebuild himself without the influence of a weaksauce society. Similar to the 21 Convention, I set the goal of helping men develop every aspect of who they were, developing the ‘Ideal’ man as Anthony Johnson puts it.

This is why the book sends each man on a different journey, what he has to do to get himself to optimal living if different than what you’ll have to do. Each journey is unique, but there are some universal overlaps and that is what this essay is about.

When you work to develop your physical, mental, and spiritual self you’ll find that the challenges you face, the pieces you find easier/more difficult, and final results are going to be entirely unique to you. Yet, the other men who also go through this transformation will understand exactly what you feel as they’ll of experienced the same thing, differently.

Physical

Without resistance, the body will not grow. Without putting stress on the body, you’ll never be able to appreciate the beauty of it nor will you ever know what it is capable of.

There are plenty of men out there who watch movies and think to themselves, if that happened to me I’d rise to occasion.

If you’re one of those guys, I’d like to ask you, why do you think you can do those things, have you practiced any of them? Have you put yourself in those situations in a training environment? Or, as is the case with most, you just assume you’ve got the natural skillsets to do what takes others years to achieve at the whim of fortune?

Our body adapts to the stress placed on it. I’m not going to tell you what it is that you must create with regards to programming as I know nothing about you. You’re reading my blog and are a man, that’s all I know at this moment.

Here is what I can tell you. Weight lifting and strength training as a whole are instrumental in an overall development of the physical self.

You must lift weights.

I don’t care what your program is, I don’t care if you choose to implement a mixed martial art or running, and I don’t care the frequency, intensity, or preference you may have. Lift weights, get active, and ensure that you’re putting your body in motion and that you’re recording your results so that you can look at trend analysis and adjust the programming accordingly for the most efficient means of training without injury.

Remember, you cannot ‘out exercise‘ a bad diet.

This means that you must pay considerably more attention to what it is that you’re putting into your body.

Proper nutritional programming is essential for sustained superior output. Again, I don’t give a shit what your diet looks like so long as you’re ensuring it is high quality and conducive to a healthy body. Your physical, mental and spiritual self are completely dependent upon what it is they are using for energy.

TL;DR: Put good fuel into your body.

Do not let focus on the food cause an oversight on the importance of the fluids you’re consuming. Water is essential, it is the only thing that you have to have, all else is optional. Some find supplementing their water with electrolytes or other vitamins helps keep the intake from feeling monotonous. It’s much easier to drink a gallon of water a day if you’re enjoying each sip.

It is this combination of proper stress, fuel, and hydration that you’ll crate your most optimal physical self, and each of those also plays into the health and capability of your mental self.

Mental

It seems to me that the majority of men out there know that their minds are in shambles, yet they have no fucking clue how to fix it. So they add more to it, create more stuff, and fill it with more thinking that they’re lacking in something.

Gentlemen, I will tell you now, you do not need more, you need less.

In order to reach the greatest heights and develop the strongest mental ‘self’ you can, you’ve got to remove the unessential. Get rid of the shit that is clogging up your daily life. Not just inside your head, but the environment in which your head spends its time as well.

There is a reason I deleted my Facebook.

I could make more $$$ if I went onto that platform with TFA, but there is no fucking way because Facebook bogs my mind down. Seeing people ‘act‘ happy, while living miserable lives was driving me insane. Instead of keeping fakebook to stay in touch with my Navy brothers across the country, I just deleted it.

What’s the point?

I chose facebook as my example because that is what a lot of people find themselves getting caught up on.

You’re watching other people do shit and comparing your life to theirs and it is absolutely detrimental to your mental well-being.

It doesn’t have to be facebook though, your mental clutter could be:

  1. Seeking approval from your parents.
  2. Keeping the wife happy
  3. Playing it ‘safe‘ and doing what you’re “supposed” to do
  4. Keeping up with the Jones’s
  5. Trying to control things you have no control over
  6. Giving Time Vampires your most valuable resource – Your Time
  7. Confusing accumulation of ‘stuff‘ as accumulation of happiness
  8. Identifying with MSM or Politics
  9. Avoiding confrontation with who you are vs who you want to be
  10. Living in the mold created by society

Each of these things plagues plugged-in men in society, some more than others. The fact is, until you tackle whatever issues you’ve built in your mind, you’ll never achieve the optimal level of mental health.

I’m not happy all of the time, but I’m a happy dude. I’m happy because there is no clutter in my mind anymore.

How did I reach this point?

I faced my demons head on

Not only did I go through and delete people, things, stuff from my life which I did not find value, but I also removed physical pieces of ‘stuff’ from my home.

If there is clutter in your bedroom, how can you sleep peacefully?

If your writing area is a mess, how can you remain focused when writing?

If your living room looks like it came from a magazine, how can you say it represents who you are as a man?

You don’t have to live life as a minimalist, but more does not equal better. You should be able to look at everything in your home and know its purpose and value to your life immediately. If you don’t know why you have three different sets of fine china or why you have so many photos and paintings on your walls, remove them.

It’s ok for walls and horizontal surfaces to be bare.

You decide if your house is a home.

You have to take that same approach to what is going on between your ears. Let the mind freely wander and as you find old grudges, resentment, fears, desire to please others, etc. Throw it out.

You’re done with it, you’ve made it this far but you aren’t going any further so long as you carry this excess mental baggage around.

Toss it

Watch how much lighter your mental self feels once you face these things and remove them, watch how much more you smile.

People said I was insane and weird for deleting facebook. As soon as I did it I realized how many friends I didn’t have and it was liberating.

There is a reason I’ve been able to avoid the pitfalls which are so often associated with marriage and fatherhood.

I don’t play by the same rules as others and my mental self is flourishing because of it. Give yourself that gift, give yourself the gift of freedom to live authentically. Once you establish these new habits while removing the old toxic ones, you’ll find that you’re not only happier, but more connected to not only your true ‘self’, but also your fellow man and your environment as a whole.

This is where the spiritual self is found, this is the aspect of man that the world admires, other men respect, and women will never truly understand.

Spiritual

The most recent example of a man combining the three aspects of his masculine self can be seen in the Las Vegas shooting.

You see, this goes beyond specific religions; it is the spiritual aspect of our masculinity which makes us appreciate the beautiful delicacy of a flower, the innocence of children, the godlike power of the feminine, the brotherhood among all men, and the human connection between all people.

In my recent essay A Beautiful Suicide I wrote about Sonny Melton, a man who heard gunshots and did not panic (His Mental Self Was Strong), so he wrapped himself around his wife as they ran from the shooting (His Physical self was strong) he was shot and killed, his wife lived. Something we have to recognize, was his decision to put her out of harm’s way, his decision that if someone was going to die, it was going to be him, this shows that his Spiritual self was strong.

The same goes for Taylor Winston, the Marine who stole a truck to save lives. His Mental made the decision to steal the truck, Physical enabled him to move bodies, but it was his Spiritual which propelled him to act and save others instead of just himself in the first place. Without a healthy balance between the three, this man would remain unknown and at least 30 more people would be dead.

  • Men are disposable
  • Men carry the burden of performance
  • Women and Children get on lifeboats before men

We are ok with all of this because we see the beauty and value there is in those who bring life into the world and we know that if there is anyone who is going to have a fighting chance to survive the shots, sinking of a ship, or fight it is going to be a man.

A man is willing to die for what it is he believes in. A man is going to reach out to complete strangers and dedicate his time and energy to their success because he feels the connection all men share. What do you think The 21 Convention was all about?

The speakers there gave very valuable time pro bono to help their fellow man because they give a shit about the mission.

When I’m in my Jeep I’ll often lose myself to just feeling the breeze and cruising, no music (sometimes it’s level 10 – not always) while other times I’ll appreciate the flavor of a whiskey, the sound of my kids laughter and screaming as they pile out of the house to open my Jeep door and greet me.

We’re all connected and I’d argue men are more empathetic, while delivering in a much harsher tone than women. A woman is motherly, a man will slap you down then build you up – is either better?

No

The masculine and feminine are complementary to one another

But this is for the men from a man. If you want the most from your spiritual aspect of being a man, you have to start connecting with others. There is too much hate in this world, and it comes from a place of self-loathing.

When you feel how good life can be, you want to share that and help others reach the same point, it’s literally what I’m doing now.

Haters are going to hate; don’t be one of them.

Instead of trying to rise by pushing others down, act like a tide that lifts every boat higher while rising yourself.

Before you mock, disparage, or demean another, realize you’re killing the spiritual connection in yourself. If someone deserves your wrath, it is better to straight up nothing them.

The opposite of love is not hate, it is apathy.

If you want more than you have, you’ve got to start doing things differently. You have the life you deserve, if you want to reach optimal levels of living and get more from each day you’re granted the privilege to enjoy, then you need to harness and bring balance to your physical, mental, and spiritual Self.
Hunter

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Most Haters are Filled with Envy

The critic hates most that which he would have done himself if he had had the guts.”                                                                                                                                           –  Steven Pressfield

We live in a world where mediocrity is awarded, conformity is praised, and the standard of performance is so low that the most minimal of effort places you in the top 25% of your peers.

Everyone acts like a crab in the bucket of life and they will try to pull you down if you attempt to leave the confines where everyone else dwells.

The Problem here is that You’re No Crab.

You’ve decided that you’re going to pursue your passion in life and that you’re no longer going to pacify your masculine energy in order to keep those around you comfortable.

You’re going to disregard the expectations of a weak society.

People genuinely want you to do well, just never better than themselves.

You’re going to pursue what it is you want to do as opposed to what is expected of you

And

You’re going to walk your path and refuse to follow the one which has been forged for you by a society which hates everything your raw masculine self represents.

This isn’t about keeping the peace with others, it’s about living the most optimal life and more importantly, living it on your own terms.

Frame = Reality

When you create your own indestructible frame, people rage vitriol & hate towards everything you achieve.

Why?

Because your success acts as a mirror which reflects their mediocre performance up to this point.

I wish men viewed other’s success as fuel for their own growth but the truth is that rarely do people have the intestinal fortitude to cheer on another’s greatness.

Disregard the Opinion of the Weak

No matter what it is you achieve, haters are going to hate. Not because what you did was wrong, but simply because you did.

Most talk, very few do.

When you choose to do, it makes the talkers look like pussies, so they spread hate.

I say good.

Use the lack of support given to you by strangers, friends, and family as fuel for future growth.

The more resistance you face the more likely it is that you’re on the right path. Now, don’t confuse this with people calling you out for being an asshole. If you’re a douchebag who kicks people when they’re down, then they hate isn’t a sign of success, but rather a sign that you’re a fucking asshole – know the difference.

The actions and opinion of others does not define your reality, and they hate you for it.

They hate you because they wish they had the balls to enter the arena. They sit in the stands and talk shit while you walk onto the battlefield prepared for war.

Win or lose, you tried; few can say this.

– Hunter Drew

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TFA & 31DtM

When I took on the challenge of writing a series of posts which would span the entire month of March, I was doing so to get myself out of an inconsistent writing funk.

I had no idea that taking on that personal challenge (which I failed) would forever alter the path this blog was on.

#MenofMarch changed the game for me, it also changed the lives of hundreds (let’s be real we’re in the thousands now) of other men for the positive.

I’ve had single men, married fathers, lawyers, the unemployed, and everyone in-between message me telling me how taking on that challenge positively impacted their life.

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Since releasing 31 Days to Masculinity, the book which was created from #MenofMarch, the number of emails, messages, and men joining the ranks has continued to consistently grow.

It is because of this growth that I am going to be giving 31DtM it’s own home.

The program has taken on a life of its own and the message is unique to that of The Family Alpha. A division of power and attention is necessary to provide the highest quality product on both the Family & Masculinity side as well as that of personal development and a reclamation of authentic living.

The new site will be up and running by March 2018 (A March kickoff brings 31DtM back to its roots) and will be dedicated to men who are on their journey to reclaiming their authenticity as well as 31DtM alumni who will act as moderators helping those who have questions as well as sharing their journey as to what happened on Day #32.

This program is bigger than myself, it isn’t about me, it’s about us and the only way this community works is if we are all working together and building that network of men who will support and advise you and will just as quickly call you out on your weak bullshit as well.

The site will have a video for each day where I will not only go over that days challenge and topic of discussion, but I’ll also provide a behind the scenes look at why you’re doing that particular challenge, something you don’t get from the book. You’ll have 31 videos which can be used in place of the book, or if you failed the first go round, they may help keep you on track as well as more understanding of why it is so important to follow each step.

The site will also have a chat function which will allow immediate, real time access to myself and others who’ve completed the program to shoot the shit, ask questions, etc.

There will be a forum dedicated to discussing the journey as well as what happens once the program has been completed.

There will be an initial fee to join the site as I don’t want it to be like Reddit, I want men who are dedicated to their improvement and who truly want to be a part of this on there. I’m choosing quality over quantity with this, I want motivated men.

I’m going to be running a T Shirt campaign for the next 31 days. The money made from this will go towards construction of the site as well as a few other projects I have in the works.

Another perk to grabbing a shirt; if you share a photo wearing a 31DtM T-Shirt and hashtag #31DtM you’ll be entered to win access to the site for free and a signed copy of the 31DtM book.

I’ll be randomly selecting six photos, if your name gets picked 1-3 you’re in the club for free; if it’s picked 4-6 you’re getting a signed copy of the book.

Here is what the shirts look like:

The goal is to sell as many shirts possible to not only get cash flowing towards making the new site amazing, but it will also instill that sense of brotherhood which came from #MenofMarch.

If you just want to grab a shirt to support TFA, then that works too, but the point of this is to get like minded men bridging that gap which exists in the modern world. We can get men from across the nation rocking shirts that represent masculine reclamation.

It was amazing to see how all of the men came together during that month and to get photos wearing the same gear and pursuing the same goals, even if you buy a shirt just to be a part of the club, fuck it it’ll make for a good time.

#MenofMarch brought a lot of men together.

I look forward to creating this next phase for 31DtM and for all of future men who will join the ranks of those original #MenofMarch and all who’ve taken on the challenge and reclaimed their authenticity since then.

The drive ends November 7th, shirts will be shipped out roughly 12 days after that. I’m looking forward to seeing these shirts out in public.

You can order your shirts or donate to this next chapter here: https://www.customink.com/fundraising/31dtm2018

Hunter

Face Your Fear of Rejection

If you want to sing, sing. When you stop worrying about what others will think, you can then walk on water.

            For some, the scariest possibility in the world is to be alone.

I was watching a Joe Rogan stand up special the other night and he said something which really impacted me.

He said, “Humans are such social creatures that the worst thing you can do to them is put them in solitary confinement. A person in prison, with all freedom stripped from him can still be punished by being removed from the population; forced to be alone.

This same fear of ‘solitary confinement’ can be found outside of prison. In fact, this fear is acting like a governor which limits the extent to which a person is living their life.

This ‘glass ceiling’ is something we need to eliminate from our lives and by doing so we’ll act as an example which will help our fellow man take action in their own life.

Fear of being the Outcast

The potential for being rejected or ostracized from your social group is not something which only terrifies you psychologically, it also impacts you on a physiological level.

Your body will actively work against whatever action will lead to a judging panel from your peers.

Why do you think it’s so difficult for people to:

  • Speak in public?
  • Publish an essay?
  • Release a painting to the world?

The answer is that each of these acts require you to make yourself vulnerable and open to judgement.

This judgement of your ideas puts you at risk for expulsion from the group and viewing it from a historical perspective, if you’re tossed from your tribe, you’re dead.

Now here comes the other side of that double edged sword.

If you never put yourself at risk of judgement and rejection, are you ever truly alive?

I don’t think so and it’s because of that driving force to experience the entire spectrum of living that I promote taking those risks and putting yourself out there.

It’s a New Age

Our physical response to being judged stems from a time period where life itself was linked with the tribe.

It’s 2017, you aren’t dead if your friends don’t hang out with you anymore.

In fact, a majority of your friends are people you shouldn’t be hanging out with in the first place.

Statistically speaking, your closest friends are probably guys who live a mediocre life, exhibit conformist behavior, and are fully plugged in and supportive of the feminine imperative.

These men aren’t challenging you to raise your standard of living or to authentically express your masculine nature; yet you’re afraid to lose them.

Stick with the right Group

Find the Lions and Run With Them

The next time you feel the desire to speak up or take an action, even though you normally take the passive path of avoiding judgement, I want you to let it out.

  • Your hands may get sweaty.
  • You may feel your pulse in your teeth.
  • Your ears might get hot.

But dammit man you have  to take action.

This isn’t limited to asking someone to get out of your way while shopping at Target (which some can’t do) this covers the entire spectrum of performance.

  • Approaching a girl at the bar.
  • Giving a speech to your class.
  • Standing up to your parents
  • Starting a blog and actually writing posts for the world to critique and criticize.
  • Saying “No”
  • Stepping in when you feel the need to get involved, possibly requiring physical confrontation.
  • Displaying your artwork, poetry, or other creation you’ve been wanting to show the world.

For all of these to provide you with the greatest amount of satisfaction, you have to do.

Yes, all of these open you up to rejection, being ostracized due to your opinion, you may lose the fight or argument, and your essay or artwork may be brutally massacred by those who view and review it.

So what?

Aren’t you tired of wondering, What If‘?

  • What if you’d said something?
  • What if you’d written out those great stories that were in your head?
  • What if you entered your artwork into a competition?
  • What if you spoke to that cute girl at the bookstore?

Here’s my question for you: What if you made the decision to live your life as opposed to going over the what ifs inside your mind.

Find out the answer to ‘what if’?

Put yourself out there and face the potential for rejection head on.

Hunter

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Modern Day Agoge Part II

Your son should live a genuine life expressing his masculine identity.

Your son should live a genuine life expressing his masculine identity.

I first wrote of how I’d created a modern version of Agoge back in September 2016. Since writing that post, ‘Modern Day Agoge: A man’s path to raising a masculine son in a feminized society.‘ I’ve received countless emails from other fathers asking how they could implement this style of home education & a Rite of Passage into the lives & relationship with their son.

In the first post I touched on the specific subjects, this one will go beyond the scope of the literal topics and more into the ‘Why & How’ of it all.

We live in a fast paced, time wasting, numb society. Everything is being created to make living more ‘comfortable‘. This is in direct conflict with the development of masculinity and it’s also detrimental to sustaining your masculine nature as a man.

Choosing to have a child is one of the biggest decisions of your life. The amount of time, money, and personal sacrifice required is great. I want you to think longer and harder about this than the average schmuck who has kids because ‘his wife wants to‘ or because that’s what he feels he ‘should‘ do via society’s pressure on men to settle down & support the female imperative.

In my post The Burden of Family I talk about the necessity of viewing your family as fuel and not an anchor. You have to consider this before having kids. They are going to take away most of the ‘you time’. This is the burden of men; balancing the desire for conquest and glory with development of the lives responsible to.

If you want to follow the type of path I’m forging with my boy, then you need to be prepared to commit a significant amount of quality time with him.

Sitting & watching TV or eating shitty foods and talking about your day is not quality time. If you’ve set the goal of reclaiming your masculine self and at the same time want to prevent your son from ever suffering the pain of The Void, then you need to be ready read, teach, answer questions, and do it all at the expense of your personal development.

When I read a book to my son, conduct science experiments, discuss philosophy, teach him math, or answer the 1,000 questions he has, I am not blogging, writing, reading my own books, doing my own schoolwork, or pursuing the other personal goals I have.

I am OK with this as I chose to have children and I have a limitless reserve of masculine energy & confidence in self.

I may not have the time to read or write as much as I would like or as much as the other bloggers & authors out there. But, they don’t get the personal satisfaction and joy which I experience with my son. The trade-off is worth it to me.

You may find that it isn’t to you.

Not all fathers have the same goals and not all fathers are capable of choosing the development of their son over the development of their ‘self’.

I’m not here to judge, but I want it to be clear, this path does not work for every father out there. I will ask that you take a deep introspective moment to decide if it’s worth it.

Your son needs you, when you feel the weight is too much, dig deeper and find that reserve of masculine power which never fails you.

The future of masculinity is in our youth. I think the loss of sleep due to pushing the schedule back to make time for raising our boys is worth it.

Don’t ask for more hours in the day, they don’t appear (trust me). Instead, get better at managing your time.

The Responsibility of Fatherhood

Remember, your children will perform to the standard you accept, not the one you expect.

They’ll follow your masculine example over your fatherly advice.

This is why you must:

  • Read to them & with them
  • Exercise Together
  • Develop Home Lessons on a variety of subjects
  • Drill them with physical & mental tests

I’ve been asked if there was a set schedule my son and I followed with regards to his ‘masculine pipeline’. To a degree, yes there is a schedule as we have certain subjects set for certain days.

This does not mean that we don’t shift things around, cater to holidays, vacations, etc. or that there is any strict adherence to this schedule.

There are times where we have to skip our science day because baseball practice ran late or a family member is in town. I will always acknowledge it to let my son know that we are missing a lesson so that he doesn’t think I forgot or that it doesn’t matter.

As the masculine example & leader in the family you’ve got to ensure that your son is being equipped with the right ‘programming’ in his mind.

Do not allow a screen to raise your child. Immerse in the world.

Do not allow a screen to raise your child. Immerse in the world.

It is not the responsibility of the government to ensure our children are properly educated. Their job is to provide the most basic of fundamental development. The problem with letting them run his entire education is that the entire organizational structure is geared towards support of the feminine imperative.

He will be conditioned to repress his natural thoughts and actions in favor of what has been deemed by our weak society as ‘appropriate’.

Fuck. That.

It is your responsibility to create a system which counteracts this conditioning. You select your lessons based on what you believe your son should know. As I write this I realize that I have not taught my son wilderness survival. I’m making a note on our calendar that I need to teach him to build shelter, find food, hunt, hydrate, etc.

This is the mindset you need to have.

If you build a program like my modern Agoge, you’ll be able to easily add/subtract from it. If you never develop a ‘home training’ system then you’ll never develop the habit of thinking, what can I teach my son today?

He needs you. All of our boys need a masculine example. A fathers and men it is our responsibility to fill that role and develop our sons to being able to reach even greater heights than we attain ourselves.

My son won’t need TFA in his life, neither will he need The Red Pill; his default will be that of a masculine man.

Embracing Masculinity

A part of this Modern Agoge is helping my son develop and express his masculine nature.

I reinforce his masculine habits and developments through amplified praise of manly nature frequently. The other day in the middle of dinner I got up, walked over to my son, put my face in his, and exclaimed to the family that his mustache was starting to fill in (he’s 7). I made it a thing and he was so proud and we all ‘cheered’ to him, it was awesome.

I heard him bragging to his friend a few days later about how his mustache was ‘growing bigger‘.

He frequently talks about having a beard when he’s older, just like dad’s, his muscles/strengthand one time when I asked him why he was running around the front yard in the cold without a shirt on he said, “Because I’m a man”.

While I made him put it back on, I was proud that he was expressing who he was vice repressing that genuine nature & self.

When we have our philosophy lessons I explain to him that being a man isn’t all about war and physically prowess but also the mental strength which must be forged.

I speak of great leaders, warriors, and brilliant minds who were all equally masculine in their endeavors.

I let him wrestle, use tools/weapons, and do not try to bubble wrap him in an attempt to keep him from experiencing harm. There have been times where I’ve warned him that doing something could hurt and when he tried it anyway, I did not prevent the painful result.

He learned his lesson the hard way, as we all must.

Whether he is falling off a wall or wounded from wrestling, I do not run to him. I watch him pick himself up, covered in mud, blood, or tears and let him console and compose himself. Only then will I go to him to check for permanent damage to the body or mind and I’ll provide a lesson.

There are too many coddling fathers. Sometimes you have to put your hand on your son’s shoulder and tell him that he failed because he wasn’t good enough.

There are days where we don’t measure up. This is reality.

I have failed, my son has failed, and we will both continue to do so as there’s no other way to know where that line is until you cross it and fall hard onto your face.

A while back my son fell off a gnarly rock wall at the playground. The things is a beast and his friends wouldn’t even attempt it He was upset and I told him it’s because he hadn’t trained hard enough with his climbing.

He did not look to me with a self-defeated attitude, he looked up at me with embarrassment and fear he had disappointed me.

So I told him, “Son, I’m not disappointed you failed to reach the top. You tried something the other kids wouldn’t try and you failed. Today you are not ready for this wall, but I promise you that every kid who saw you climb and fall wishes they were able to attempt it. Your mind is strong and I know you’ll workout harder and keep practicing until you can scale it. You entered the arena and you were beaten, but look at the other kids, they all stand in the crowd, afraid to even try.”

These are the talks you need to be having with your son. They need know that life isn’t sunshine and rainbows. They need to know that if they do not prepare then they will fail and that failure is not acceptable but rather it should be used a fuel for future growth.

Test him physically & mentally. Every obstacle he overcomes is another fold in the steel, strengthening his 'self'.

Test him physically & mentally. Every obstacle he overcomes is another fold in the steel, strengthening his ‘self’.

My son has since climbed to the top of that wall. He practiced and pushed himself every chance he got whenever we went anywhere. Then when he took it on again, he zipped right up.

I was proud, he was proud, and the lesson was instilled.

Preparation for War

Every time I have to travel for work I tell my son that he is the ‘Man of the house‘ while I’m away. The first time I said this, I asked him if he knew what that meant; he said “No”.

I then went on to explain to him that men are both the Shield and Spear of their family. As men we are required to protect our clan from external forces (Shield) and attack our enemies when required (Spear).

I then spoke of the many roles he may not be aware that I filed for our family. I told him that in my absence he’d have to be the one my daughter went to when she didn’t understand something. That he would have to do the man’s chores (Trash, yard, kill bugs, etc.) and that he would have to make sure that everyone was safe and sound.

This is all a formality, the kid is 7. I know my wife will be holding down the fort while I’m away as she is both my Queen & Warrior, but I want to begin forging the pathways in his mind where he know, at some point, he will be the one to fill these roles.

His time will come when he moves out of my sphere of control and into the ‘real world’ to make it as a man. I want him to know what’s expected of masculine men in society. Unfortunately there could be a time where our sons have to fill that role sooner than we expected. If I’m killed by a drunk driver tonight, then my son’s lessons will be over if I had not taught him what it was that men are expected to do, then someone else would and too often that someone else is already deeply in support of the feminine imperative.

If you’re asking yourself, When would be the best time to start my son’s Rite of Passage’ then look at the example above and see that the time is now.

The world is a brutal place and masculine men are targeted by all. Prepare your boy for battle by strengthening his mind to where it becomes an impenetrable fortress. His belief in self and masculine development should not be something does, but rather who he is.

Society, the school system, and life as a whole are working against you.

Let everyone else enjoy complacent living. Not you though and not your son, no you’ll find comfort in the discomfort and you’ll live your genuine life.

When you teach your son, you teach your son’s son.

You are the torchbearer of masculinity, pass the fire onto the next generation.

Hunter

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Flip the Switch

Flip the Switch & send power to setting the gears of Masculinity into motion.

Flip the Switch & send power to setting the gears of Masculinity into motion.

How long it takes for you to unplug is directly related to how long it takes for you to accept reality for what it is, whether you’ve fully committed to the process, and how long it takes you to understand that nothing will be given, all must be earned.

Reality

The reality of the situation is that you’ve got a lot longer road than you think and unlike every movie you’ve ever seen, you’ll be walking this road alone.

You’re physique most likely needs a significant amount of time and dedicated decision making fitness wise before it looks like the body of a man who owns his shit.

Another unfortunate truth is that you’re most likely going to use the amount of time that you were a weak fuck as another excuse to justify your mediocrity.

When you don’t reach a goal or your wife shuts you down you’ll justify it with, “well I’m not supposed to be getting laid yet or desired by women because I was a pussy for 8 years.” What in the actual fuck does this mean?

I’ve seen too many posts on TRP & MRP where men say, “I know I’m not ‘Alpha’ enough yet, but-” shut it the fuck down right there. You are already displaying a weak mindset and are admitting that you still do not believe in you. You’ll never reach your goals without complete belief in self and a display of irrational self-confidence.

Here’s the brutally raw truth most are unable to ever digest.

You don’t want to become a masculine man, you just want your wife to fuck you a little more or respect you a little more. Taking ownership of your life is too difficult and you know that.

So you pretend.

You make the posts, read the books, say the word No a few times then go back to your comfortable land of easy, free of pain.

Because of this, you never find comfort in the discomfort and you never immerse yourself into the grind. You never get to experience the freedom which comes with total belief in self, free from the burden of trying to gain validation from a woman.

You never Flip the Switch in your mind and decide to completely own your fucking life.

Commitment

There is this stupid fucking notion that for every year you were a faggot it will take a month to recover.

This notion is pushed to prevent guys from going ‘Red Pill Rambo’, what men fail to see is that ‘Red Pill Rambo’ is not masculine, so the guys who are going to go off the fucking rocker and start demanding that their undeserved standards be met don’t need a warning, they’re going to fuck it up either way because they are trying to take submission via domineering behavior vice inspirational domination.

Like a light switch you flip your fucking mind from meek & reserved to masculine and confident.

You do that right now, this second.

You draw a boundary and do it for yourself, not for your kids, wife, parents, or friends.

You’re doing this for you and you alone. You start making time for yourself today to accomplish the goals you want and not the ones you think others expect you to set. The people around you are likely very mediocre, mainly because you’re mediocre and people stick with like-minded people.

If you’re going to ‘take the Red Pill‘ and face the raw apathetic nature of reality, then do so with the mindset that you’re going to fucking own it. Start noticing the walls confining you and strings controlling the system, then break that fucking mold.

Stop with this bullshit reserved attempt at reclamation of the masculine self.

You’re in or you’re out.

If you’re in, then dive into the deep end and learn to swim. Get rid of the life-ring and bullshit justifiers & “I know I’m not alpha enough yet‘ excuses.

I don’t give a fuck if you’re 100lbs overweight, just because your body is soft as play-dough it doesn’t mean your mind needs to be weak as well.

Look in the mirror, that’s your competition. That’s also the masculine man you’re working with to own this life, take care of your future self and commit today.

– Hunter
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