Are you a man that is living a lifestyle which somehow doesn’t feel quite right?
Do you feel as though there is this void, this sense of missed satisfaction and incomplete daily regret?
If you fall into this category, understand that you aren’t alone. The sense of missing something is shared by thousands, if not millions of men out there. It’s not just married men either; single men, guys in LTR’s they all have this black fucking void that they can’t fill.
I’m letting you know right now that this feeling of emptiness and this feeling of being weighed down is a direct result of repressed masculinity.
The feeling of having a weight vest on, one that prevents you from taking actions, telling jokes, achieving goals, and just barely allowing you to keep your head above water; these are the symptoms suffered by men who repress their masculinity and it isn’t going to get any better until you do something about it.
For the guys who just discovered the manosphere, it’s not your fault; the cards were stacked against you and from birth your reality and frame have been stripped of you.
Your life was molded by society and the white knight supporting the female imperative, they gave you that mold with the warning: If you think outside this box you are wrong, ungrateful, pathetic, and weak stay inside this box, keep your picture in this frame, and DON’T EVER CHALLENGE THE STATUS QUO.
It’s sad, but it’s true.
For the guys who have discovered the manosphere and still continue to push back against the plight faced by yourself and your fellow men, you are a disgusting gender traitor. I know it sucks to have your reality shattered the way the manosphere does so efficiently, but it is still the truth and you must find comfort in this discomfort.
Even when you fight back saying masculinity is how guys compensate or whatever, you still know the truth and no matter how bad you want to go back to how things were when you were a comfortable nice guy, you’ll never be able to hide from the strings you see controlling the system.
Men who see the truth yet continue to choose their comfortable lie still have a void, though they’ll never admit it as their ego cannot allow them to do so.
The void where regret, indecisiveness, sadness, and self loathing fester and grow is surrounded by a wall that was created by those who are looking out for themselves.
The people who say you shouldn’t be confrontational, that you shouldn’t express your true desires, that you should take it all, bottle it up, and shove it deep inside those people aren’t following that advice, they want you to do it because that supports their goals.
Here are a few truths:
- You will never get the best of your life or your women until you accept the truth, embrace who you are as a man, and live an irrationally confident lifestyle. You have to love her the way you want to love her, not the way you think she wants to be loved.
- You will never fill that void until you find a way to love who you are as a man. To love who you are requires you to break the mold. For guys who get it this is natural, these are the guys who are able to stand in front of a group of people, tell a joke which lands flat, lay out a witty remark, and continue to smile and grab a drink. Other men would sulk, think deeply on why the joke sucked, and the rest of the night they would be lost in their head thinking of where they went wrong and why nobody likes them. Do you see the difference? A man is happy and confident no matter what.
- You will go to your death bed with regrets if you don’t pull your head out of your ass and start completely immersing yourself in the moments of life all the while expressing your masculine nature vice repressing it. Starting creating moments vs numbing yourself weekly with booze, TV, and scrolling on your phone looking at girls from your high-school days.
- You cannot fill this void with any object or a woman. No female or item in the world will fill the hole your ‘genuine self‘ belongs in.
The last point is probably the most heart wrenching in my eyes.
If you do not find your ‘self’ you will look back on your entire life wondering why you squandered your most precious gift away, your time. You’ll go to your deathbed with regret, wishing, “If only I could go back to when I read that post on that blog. If I had just started that day I’d of achieved so much and experienced a world of joy.”
I look at the guys who are asking for help and just want to throat punch them through the screen. There are men who are looking for other men to support their decision to stay with their repetitively cheating lady; as if their world would crumble if somehow that one relationship didn’t work. If she is cheating you probably deserve it and the relationship is most likely already dead, move on and get over your relationship PTSD.
The same can be said for the guys who want to know what decisions they should make in their lives. Gentlemen, it’s your life, read the posts, blogs, and books then make the decision you feel is best going to get you to where you want to be. You have to stop making excuses to justify your mediocre existence and performance up to this point and instead claim ownership and start taking actions.
In all of these cases we see men who don’t know where they want to be, they don’t know who they are so therefore how can they plan and act in accordance with reaching that end goal?
This is why it is so oft repeated it’s about you. You have to know who you are and what it is you want from this life. Do you know how you find out who you are?
- You Lift
- You Read
- You Listen
- You Act
- You Observe
- You Change
- You Disregard the nonessential
In each of these moments you will discover something about yourself. You will see where you stand physically, mentally, socially, your level of confidence, and that you aren’t perfect which is great because there is no fun to be had if there is no room to grow.
Fill that void gentlemen, stop wasting your precious time with the feeling of regret that I know creeps into your mind at night, during rides to work, and while you are alone.
That isn’t how life should be lived. You do not need your wife, your house, your kids, your money, or your car; you need you.
Once you realize that if everything were to be stripped away and you’d still smile only then can you start taking actions and leading others towards where it is you want everyone to be without the fear and void that plagues so many of our brothers.
Then and only then, will you rise from the ashes like a Phoenix and soar to your greatest masculine potential.
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