What is a Family Alpha?
Craig James and I (Hunter Drew – the bearded one) have come together under one banner due to the overlap of our writing, our mission, and our goals for our fellow family men.
What is the Family alpha?
It’s all men leading their families.
The Family aspect of The Family Alpha is easy to understand. It means you, a man, have taken on the responsibility of another life. Whether it is just you and your wife or you, your wife, and kid(s); when you take on the responsibility of another life, you have a family.
The concept of Alpha is a little trickier to explain. People latch onto this concept of the ‘top’ wolf in a pack. They think of being an Alpha as being muscular, the strongest, best looking, and an asshole that is only looking out for numero uno. The issue here is that these are ‘alpha’ tendencies or behaviors. The Family Alpha has found a way to display both alpha & beta behaviors at the correct times and with the correct frequency. He knows when to push and when to pull. He is focused and self-motivated, generating his own happiness. He knows what his family needs and he gets them there. Most importantly he embraces his masculinity and pursues his mission in life, taking the family along for the ride.
The Family Alpha is consistently looking to improve himself and walk this path in life in a manner that is consistent with his views as to what is right. Regardless of what the ‘majority’ of men are doing, he does his thing. Complacency has been removed and conformity does not exist. The Family Alpha displays traits that are uncommon in this day and age. It is this uncommon behavior that leads to the uncommon lifelong Marriage that is ultimately the goal of every Married Man.
The Family Alpha pursues advancement in his professional career as well as self-improvement in every facet of his personal life. As a Family Alpha you are going to give your wife the best sex she’s ever had, have her laugh the hardest, and keep the fire of tingles alive to the grave.
I’m married with two kids. I don’t have much of a nightlife, I don’t party or go on traveling adventures by myself, and I don’t have chicks on the side… am I an ‘Alpha’ Male? – HD
I asked myself this question from time to time, wondering if marriage revoked my ‘Masculine Man’ card.
It wasn’t until I read a post on Reddit where a user broke down the Alpha Male into subcategories that made it easier to understand the different types of guys that are out there. I took his observations and applied them to my specific situation. This is where I came up with the term & category of the Family Alpha. The universal aspect of each category was that the man owned his shit throughout it all. Married, single, bi, gay if you do your thing and fully embrace it, you’re an Alpha mother fucker and nobody is going to argue with that.
We, as masculine men living in this modern feminized society, are a part of the minority who have been able to avoid (or break free from) the conformist mold that wants to repress our manhood and promote the destruction of who we are and what we represent – Masculinity.
Choosing to start a family and raise children does NOT make you any less of a man, nor does it provide you with the option of becoming complacent and relaxing your standard of self-growth as a Man. Personally, I feel that there is honor in marrying a woman and pledging your life to her and your children. Then again, masculine men are more romantic than any group out there.
It is our responsibility, as Married men, to hold ourselves to a higher standard. We must reach a level that is continuously being raised in order to maintain a healthy, fulfilling relationship until death.
It is our responsibility to raise our children according to what is right and not what is popular. Teach your son about honor, loyalty, masculinity, and how to live a full life dedicated to a cause and not to a woman. Raise your daughter to not to seek validation from men or advancement through her physique but rather to honor themselves and their body and not to use it as a tool for advancement in any endeavor. The next wave of men and women will raise the current standard of our society IF we, as their parents, teach them the ways…
We are the Alpha males who lead our family and maintain a strict standard from which we hold ourselves and our family accountable to. Marriage is not the end of your manhood, it is but another phase you go through on your journey in this life.
Whether you have chosen this path or it was chosen for you, you are here and you need to make the decision to do what is right and not what is easy. Work hard, set the example for others to follow, and find comfort in the discomfort of knowing that society is against everything you represent and expects your marriage to fail.
Be the Family Alpha, prove everyone wrong. Refusal to conform is required for masculine men to remain in society and for The Red Pill of knowledge to be swallowed and spread through the body of humanity.
What We Are Up Against
“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.” – Sun Tzu ‘The Art of War’
It is important to know who it is you will be up against during this journey through modern society as a Masculine Male and a Family Alpha.
#1. Your ‘Self’
Your mind will try to rationalize everything you are doing wrong.
- It’s OK to have gained a few pounds, I have kids and we’re Married.
- I’m content in my job; I don’t need to strive for advancement and professional growth.
- I used to be a jock, I will be able to pick up where I left off – I’ll just wait until New Years Eve and start then – I deserve this break.
- Sex is supposed to decrease after Marriage & Children…
- Why do I need to hit the gym? I’m not that bad and as my wife- she owes me sex.
- If I do a lot of chores I will get sex.
- Attraction is negotiable
- She loves me the way I love her…
- She will tell me what she wants.
Every single one of these are thoughts are wrong.
Every. Single. One.
#2 Your Wife
Your wife is biologically programmed to test you. In the ‘Manosphere’ it’s called shit testing because that’s exactly what she’s doing. Your wife will give you shit about everything all of the time, constantly testing to see what you’re made of, to see if you truly are a Family Alpha.
She will test you to see if you believe in yourself, if you can handle the pressure of leading her and the children. She wants to know if you can protect the family, if you are the leader of your friends, and she’ll measure the amount of attention you get from her friends and other women. To put it bluntly, she wants to know if guys want to be you and girls want to be with you.
Then she’ll test you about that attention, it never ends – nor should it. As The Family Alpha you should be tested, it enables you to show that you are worthy of her love, attention, and sex. I will tell you now, some of the best sex I’ve ever had came after passing my wife’s shit tests.
#3 Society/Feminists/Social Justice Warriors
There are people whose sole purpose is the destruction of others and I’m sure you’ve met them before. They are the people who say it is OK to be fat and anyone who says different is wrong. Or maybe you’ve encountered the guy who says he doesn’t need to lead his family as they are all an equal part of the clan. Maybe you’ve seen the news reports that condemn men to jail without any evidence whatsoever because the victim was a female.
Gentlemen, everyone is against you becoming what you were born to be, a Man. As you grow as an individual and embrace who you are as a man you will face some backlash. Welcome it, you do not fear confrontation, you embrace it.
All I am doing is writing words with the hope you will take action. It doesn’t matter how much you know if you are unwilling to apply. Be the Family Alpha and enjoy your marriage and life to the end of its days.
Acta Non Verba,